June 4th, 2011

Вопрос дня: Суперсила

If you had a special power, would you hide it or share it with the world, and why?

Скрывать в обязательном порядке - чем меньше люди о тебе знают тем безопаснее. Втайне помогать - как совесть подскажет, скорее только в личных интересах , или если только меня не будет мучить совесть, что где-то существует вселенское зло)
jack

Writer's Block: On a need to know basis

If you had a special power, would you hide it or share it with the world, and why?

Well, obviously it depends what the power is. 

...Okay, I lied. It totally doesn't depend on anything, I'd just share away. I'm that sort of person. No, really, I'd probably be so excited about it and accidentally squee to everyone, or just forget it was meant to be secret and do something amazingly awesome/nefariously evil. Also, I don't like to keep secrets about myself unless I really have to, you know? :D 
 

kinself

Writer's Block: On a need to know basis

If you had a special power, would you hide it or share it with the world, and why?


depends what the power is, but I'm 99.9% sure I would hide it. that way, I coucan manipulateld manipulate others without drawing unwanted attention to myself. the minute people find out you have a special power, at the very least the world is interested in you, and from there it follows that someone will inevitably try to take advantage of you because of said power. in fact... I'm 100% sure I'd hide it.
белая полоса

Вопрос дня: Книги

What's the longest book you've ever read? What's the shortest?

Самая длинная и интересная книга мною прочитанная - это моё прошлое. Автор книги постоянно пишет продолжение, а я с увлечением его читаю, являясь соавтором данного произведения.
Scout

Writer's Block: On a need to know basis

If you had a special power, would you hide it or share it with the world, and why?


I'd probably keep it a secret. I just get the feeling that, once people find out you can do something like that, they'll either expect you to do it on command like an trained attack dog or they'd get really weirded out and think you're up to something. Either way, you'll never be left alone again.

Вопрос дня: Суперсила

If you had a special power, would you hide it or share it with the world, and why?

Эти способности есть у многих,Ведь Человек- образ и подобие Бога,Могу назвать две суперсилы-Слово и Молчание,Помочь всему миру ,человеку не возможно,Христос делал только добро и  мир Его распял,а ведь Он-Сын Бога Живого,Помочь  каждый себе может только сам,Изменись сам,стань добрее,терпимее,возлюби ближнего как самого себя,не кливещи и не завидуй,ищи Творца,живи по Его заповедям ,они призывают к искренней любви, Но люди больше любят тьму,,,Какая сила им поможет?

Вопрос дня: Суперсила

Хм, везде есть "+" и "-".
Наверно сейчас я бы помогал миру, не жалея своих сил, времени, здоровья. Но вести "нормальную" жизнь (клерка, например) я бы отказался напрочь. Жертвовать собой - благо, но не в наше время... А жаль, очень жаль.
осн

Вопрос дня: Суперсила

А у меня они есть. Это способность сразу в любой финансовой отчетности видеть слабые места и глубоко запрятанные махинации. Это и интуиция, и опыт, наработанный годами практики. И я этих способностей вовсе не скрываю, а стараюсь помочь, ну, если не всему миру, то хоть в России.

Было бы еще что-нибудь - типа "материализации духов и раздачи слонов" :)) - обязательно употребила бы на пользу человечества. А то какой же интерес скрывать такие способности?

If you had a special power, would you hide it or share it with the world, and why?

Вопрос дня: Суперсила

If you had a special power, would you hide it or share it with the world, and why?

Если бы у меня была бы суперсила, я бы не скрывал ее, ну может быть совсем чуть-чуть. Я бы стал супергероем и спасал мир. Хотя нет, думаю, что я бы скрывал ее, так как использовал свой суперкостюм, в состав которого входила бы маска. А иначе как быть супергероем.)))
mad tea

Writer's Block: On a need to know basis

If you had a special power, would you hide it or share it with the world, and why?

Hide it.
I mean, seriously guys, tv showed us so many options what could happen when you share your powers with the world, And most of these options were very bad. Rather practise them in secret. You can always get fame when you write your super hero memories in your retirement.
mandymoore

Writer's Block: On a need to know basis

If you had a special power, would you hide it or share it with the world, and why?

kaichuen should totally answer this question! 
I guess it depends what kind of special power it is? I don't want to talk about whether I'd share that special power. I'd rather talk about what kind of special power I'd like to have. I'd like a time-turner. One of the big flaws about life itself would have to be its transience. It's ridiculous how short our lives spans in comparison to the entire timeline of the earth. It's not even worthy of a tiny speck of dust. It's nano/whatever's-smaller-than-nano. What I would give to have more than 24 hours a day. Yet there's this theory that even if we had a few more hours on our hands, we'd still waste it away like we do with the present amount. I suppose that might be true too. The time-turner would probably complicate life too, if our paths crossed in both realms of past and present-past. Or maybe it's just a cumulation of both memories, as if they both happened.. I'm gonna stop myself from theorising even the possibility of having such a contraption, right about now. ^^ I want the power to go back in time; not to change it, but simply to do more things that I couldn't have been done at that same moment. I realise amidst my regrets that the desire to change the past is/has slowly become lost to me. That's probably a good thing. :)

Writer's Block: On a need to know basis

If you had a special power, would you hide it or share it with the world, and why?

I would definitely hide it. If everyone knows about it, then its not very special. If it was something like flying, you could fly around really early or really late and just have time to yourself in which no one would bother you. If it was something cooler like mind-reading or invisibility, you would learn so many things about people or be able to freak them out on a regular basis. If they knew about it, you wouldn't be able to use your powers like that.

Most super heroes or people with special powers (at least a lot of the cool ones) don't ever tell people about their powers, and if they do, its only a select group of people. And usually their whole life story is about keeping their powers a secret or even trying to figure out the best way to go about telling people, even if they never do.
Sick, Chemical, Mr, Green, Yuk

Writer's Block: On a need to know basis

If you had a special power, would you hide it or share it with the world, and why?


I wonder how many replies started with "That all depends".

And honestly, it really does depend. You know that the ability to run fast (And thus, deliver packages quicker than overnight express) would pay well. On the other hand, If your super power is to excrete a foul, gelatinous ooze from your back-hair, you'll probably want to keep it under your hat. Or behind a shirt, more precisely.

Okay, so what if your super power was...say...'Everything'? Heat vision, flight, mind control, the ability to resurrect Cass Elliot, whatever you want...Would you hide it?

My answer? No. Because if I get tired of the publicity, I could always use my powers to make everyone forget. Like one of those Men In Black mind-wipe things. But probably in the form of a Superman kiss.

Personally I'd be too busy going back in time and hiding James Dean's car keys to know whether or not I was gaining a reputation. But that's just me.

Writer's Block: Fool me once...

Have you ever been betrayed by a friend or partner who asked for forgiveness? Were you able to forgive and/or forget? What was the result?

I have on more then one occasion, at times it's even the same person.  One day I looked at my then husband and realized that it just seemed we just keep doing the same thing over and over again.  I decided that I wasn't gona ask for details... I wasn't about to work things out anymore, try and understand or take my part of the blame.  I was done, now it was all up to him.  Divorce came shortly after.
Fortune

Writer's Block: Fool me once...

Have you ever been betrayed by a friend or partner who asked for forgiveness? Were you able to forgive and/or forget? What was the result?

I don't think I've ever been in this situation in my life. I think I would be able to forgive and forget. Although, I haven't had this situation in all seriousness. But for all the minor things I have forgiven and possibly forgotten a lot.

However, I feel there is one situation where I could be asked for it, but that one single instance I would be completely unable to forgive and forget.
polet

Вопрос дня: Суперсила

If you had a special power, would you hide it or share it with the world, and why?

Самое страшное то, что у людей имеющих "СУПЕРСИЛУ" нет "СУПЕРСЧАСТЬЯ",  поэтому они после визита к "СУПЕРпсихотеропевту" ху..чат людей, которые жили СУПЕРхорошо. 
Я не знаю, кто придумал этот вопрос, но суперскот должен сидеть в своей СУПЕРСТРАНЕ и не мешать ЛЮДЯМ РАБОТАТЬ не на финансовых рынках, а на СВОЕЙ ЗЕМЛЕ!
Давно пора понять, что земля принесет плоды только ДОБРЫМ ЛЮДЯМ! 
Я понимаю, что я смешон, но от этого, хоть один человек со мной поспорит. Люблю спор, основанный на законах Логики.

Вопрос дня: Суперсила

If you had a special power, would you hide it or share it with the world, and why?

Смотря какие, может эти способности были бы на столько необычными что всему миру стало бы плохо :) а так был бы не против и помочь..

Вопрос дня: Суперсила

If you had a special power, would you hide it or share it with the world, and why?

Если бы я хуярил молниями из рук то пожалуй я бы точно не скрывал такие способности, а если же я мог бы отращивать ногти то пожалуй об этом ни кому бы ни стоило знать!!!
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Writer's Block: Fool me once...

Have you ever been betrayed by a friend or partner who asked for forgiveness? Were you able to forgive and/or forget? What was the result?


The answer is Yes. I never forgot the shot to my face.
I broke my soul mates heart.
I cried about it instead of moving on.
You saw past my bull shit.
After you, no other girl compared.
If you answer no, I understand.
No this is not my fist, but my hand.
If we are truly not meant to be.
Then I will get over it, even if I do it slowly.
I'll write it out with captions.
Slowly.

Writer's Block: Fool me once...

Have you ever been betrayed by a friend or partner who asked for forgiveness? Were you able to forgive and/or forget? What was the result?


Hey, I actually have a non-sarcastic answer to this!

Everybody deserves a second chance. Nobody deserves a third.* It is important for you to forgive those who hurt you because ultimately they are going to, but if they keep right on hurting you then their apology is no longer what is sought. "Betrayal" is, honestly, rarely that. It's the inability to support, not the pulling down. Give them another try.

*The reason why I say "nobody" instead of "few" is because if I say "few", it opens up the stance to be interpretive, meaning the particular types of relationships that are most likely to lead to betrayal (i.e., close ones) would be precisely the type of relationships in which one would want, due to the closeness and investment in them, to give more than just a second chance. However, if I say "nobody", as harsh as that sounds, the receiver will still give someone truly special, truly important to support, a third or fourth chance anyway. But if the mental construction is around the form of NOBODY deserving a third, it means something significant to that choice of a third or fourth chance--it means that the person doesn't deserve it, but you are giving it to them anyway. In the end, if you hold on tight to the "Nobody deserves a third chance" idea, you'll probably make a good decision as to who you forgive.

This is except in cases of codependency and abuse. The issue there is that psychologically you have the tendency to want to enable either the codependency or abuse by taking all the blame and constantly forgiving the other his or her role in betrayal or hurting you or outright physical abuse. In that case, certainly hard for the person involved to recognize, the issue isn't of forgiveness or betrayal. The issue is you have to get the fuck out of that relationship scat and never look back. But unfortunately life is a lot harder than that and it's hard to know who you really are in a relationship.

--PolarisDiB

Writer's Block: Fool me once...

Have you ever been betrayed by a friend or partner who asked for forgiveness? Were you able to forgive and/or forget? What was the result?

I find myself to be a very forgiving person. For whatever reason, I cant find it in my heart to hold a grudge against someone I love. I think the most surprising time I ever granted forgiveness was when my ex cheated on me. It wasn't a a little kiss either, it was much more. But somehow, I forgave him and we stayed together for nearly a year afterward. 
Love is a hard thing to come by, and sometimes, you have to make exceptions when rules get broken. No, its not easy to forgive someone for something they did that hurt you, but I think that forgiveness should always be possible. Forgetting is a completely different topic though.
Ferret

Writer's Block: Fool me once...

Have you ever been betrayed by a friend or partner who asked for forgiveness? Were you able to forgive and/or forget? What was the result?


I don't wanna go into detail. Forgiveness wasn't asked. Forgiveness wasn't deserved. It still bugs me. Wah wah wah, blah blah drool blah hurgleburgle.

It's been one of those nights I suppose.
цобакен

Вопрос дня: Суперсила

If you had a special power, would you hide it or share it with the world, and why?

их есть у меня :) я их не афиширую ...а мир большой , всему миру памагать - занятие крайне не благодарное
я местячково применяю , по необходимости.

Writer's Block: Fool me once...

Have you ever been betrayed by a friend or partner who asked for forgiveness? Were you able to forgive and/or forget? What was the result?


Once, a close friend of mine slept with my new girlfriend at the time. She was very drunk, and while he was a heavy drinker at the time, I am of the opinion that he was less so, and thus more in control of the situation.
I found out about it later that night when my other friends brought my girlfriend home. She was very nearly passed out from drinking, and was also in tears. My friends stayed for a little while to help me care for my girlfriend, and then left. I was upset that this had happened, though I did not fault my girlfriend for her part in it, because I was aware that she was only ever a light social drinker, and neither meant to get as drunk as she was, nor meant for this to happen. I was much more upset at my close friend, though I told myself that I would give him the chance to explain himself.
The next morning, I found him, and asked for an explanation. He didn't tell me anything that I didn't already know, but pleaded for me to believe him when he said that he was also not in control of himself, and did not mean anything by it. At this point, I had a choice. I could let myself be filled with righteous anger, and demand satisfaction for the wrong that he had done to me. At first, this was all I let myself feel. I thought to let go of any righteous anger would be to abandon loyalty to my girlfriend, and to condone the action of my close friend. It was comforting, for a time, to let myself be blinded by anger. I did not have to consider any other course of action. I did not have to consider the consequences of my actions. I did not have to consider the feelings of anyone else. But my anger could not last forever, without becoming something artificial and contrived. I had to consider what I should do, not just what I wanted to do, or what was easy to do.
I told him that he had betrayed me, greatly, for a momentary pleasure. I told him that he had endangered something that I held dear. I told him that he was foolish and unthinking and uncaring. I told him that it would be easy for me to hate him, but that I did not want to hate him. I told him that it would be difficult for me to trust him in the way that I did before. I told him that I forgave him.
In the end, my decision to forgive him really came down to me not wanting to hate him. To not forgive him would only have been justifiable through hate. And while no one would have faulted me for harboring and preserving this hate, I would have. Through forgiving him, I became more of the kind of person that I wanted to be.

Writer's Block: Fool me once...

Have you ever been betrayed by a friend or partner who asked for forgiveness? Were you able to forgive and/or forget? What was the result?

Yes i was and i have been on both sides of this story.Each time i am able to forgive and forget but i cant say the same for all the others.In life forgiving someone is one of the hardest things we can do and to have the heart to do so takes a lot.The result in some cases was that i lost those people maybe forever because they couldnt let something go or sometimes they just thought they were right meaning if i was wrong they wouldnt let it go of course.On other occasions i kept my friends or whoever and we had a stronger bond because of it and it made me value them all that much more.I wish more people were like that in that they could just forgive people for things and stop holding onto problems or issues that have made them angry or unhappy in anyway.I cant stand losing people that i have tried so hard to keep because of these reasons and it hurts when they decide to leave and never look back.Maybe its just not the right time to be friends but does that really mean cut off communication with them?I never thought so it is hard to carry on a conversation at times especially if you like to have actual voice or face to face contact but there should be more important things then hating someone forever because they made a mistake.We are all people who are bound to make many mistakes in life and no one can say that they havent or wont because it happens out of our control.You just have to keep caring and not let them go just because of anger or sadness hold onto them for as long as you can because they are the ones who would stand by you when you needed it the most.Dont ever forget that you are just one person and sometimes you need someone else to have your back.Turning your back on people shows others that you cant be a good friend or partner or spouse because you cant forgive anyone else for something that is in the past and not the current moment.
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Writer's Block: Collect 'em all

Do you collect anything? If so, what do you collect, and what made you start your collection?

i collect owls. i remember when i like 6 and my mom had this amazing owl candle the she sold at a garage sale and i was so upset that she sold iit cuz it had these plastic reading glasses the on it. and she sold that shit for like .50 centsgarage sale. i started my collection after that. it went from collections to friends finding things at the salv11ation army to grandmommy opals necklas to a full fedged owl tattoo. i love owls. gaylord i know but what ev

Вопрос дня: Суперсила

If you had a special power, would you hide it or share it with the world, and why?

Мир силён Множеством,Разнообразием и т.д. Так как Я-часть Мира,то и мои все способности ДОЛЖНЫ принадлежать всему миру.И лично я так бы поступил.Алексей Терентьевич.ya.aleksej13j@yandex.ru
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Writer's Block: Fool me once...

Have you ever been betrayed by a friend or partner who asked for forgiveness? Were you able to forgive and/or forget? What was the result?

Oh sure... in a relationship I was cheated on within the first couple of years...of course I forgave. People make mistakes. Forget? No. How do you forget something like that? A betrayal of trust and faith. 

Result? Well it took a while, but  all good things must end. Nothing lasts forever. You pick yourself up, dust yourself off and walk away. What else can one do? 

Writer's Block: Fool me once...

Last year, my best guy friend, knew something that I told him in confidence. 2 days after telling him, the whole sophmore class knew.
:/
He said sorry, & I said, "Its cool,"
& never talked to him again.
Also, our friends stopped talking to him, cause they were on my side.
He got so pissed, he told his brothers to beat me up.
He was 14.
His three brothers are, 16, 17 & 19
I was 15 at the time.
How cool is that?!
 


Free People

Writer's Block: Fool me once...

Have you ever been betrayed by a friend or partner who asked for forgiveness? Were you able to forgive and/or forget? What was the result?

Yes. I forgave, but did not forget, and I can never trust that man again. One cannot forget everything, but one can remove the emotion from the act. In this case, divorce became inevitable, and even when he gets out of prison, I do not want to see him.
Луна в Близнецах

Вопрос дня: Суперсила

If you had a special power, would you hide it or share it with the world, and why?

Это в смысле - как Супермен? Боже упаси! Разорвешься надвое, скажут - что ж не начетверо! Это сверхответственность, я к ней не готова. Вместо того, чтобы спасать мир, как Брюс Уиллис,  или скрывать способности, я бы сделала всё, чтобы от них избавиться. Возможно, постаралась бы забыть про них. Это означает - скрывать?
general snark, silly fuck yous

Writer's Block: Fool me once...

Have you ever been betrayed by a friend or partner who asked for forgiveness? Were you able to forgive and/or forget? What was the result?

by a partner, yes. i took her back and forgave her, but i never realy got over it. in the end, i was the asshole though--i totally cheated on her big time and she claims that i slept with everyone on post when i was in korea. dumb bitch, ya?

by a friend: hell yes. and that's why i don't talk to them anymore.
Blog This!

Writer's Block: Fool me once...

Have you ever been betrayed by a friend or partner who asked for forgiveness? Were you able to forgive and/or forget? What was the result?


A friend was going through 12 steps and when I ran into them on a chat, they apologized. It was a couple of years in the past. I was past it. It was nice to hear at least that they'd accepted that they'd done something wrong. It's nice to hear, but it didn't go anywhere. We see each other's icons appear but we don't talk.

Вопрос дня: Суперсила

If you had a special power, would you hide it or share it with the world, and why?

Да уж, скрывала бы, ага щас!!! )))
Я свою суперслабость скрыть не могу :)
А, вообще, было бы здорово попробовать. Это же так классно, когда ты всем нужен:)

Writer's Block: Fool me once...

Have you ever been betrayed by a friend or partner who asked for forgiveness? Were you able to forgive and/or forget? What was the result?

Don't have any friends who did that, however many of them claimed that because I didn't agree with their point of view, they say I betrayed them. Sad to say, they DIDN'T forgive me. To each their own. Recently happened on twitter. Seems more people befriended me as a result. THAT is the funny thing about twitter. One person leaves you, especially if they are the popular ones, and you get a swarm of friends. I guess that is the way of social networks

Writer's Block: Fool me once...

Have you ever been betrayed by a friend or partner who asked for forgiveness? Were you able to forgive and/or forget? What was the result?

Well, in the 6th grade, they guy I considered my best friend used me.
I had 2 best friends; Zach and this girl named Erin.
One day, Zach asked me out. I didin't wanna hurt his feelings, so I said yes, seeing as we only had like, 1 week of school left.
I told Erin how we were going out and she said she was happy for me and stuff and we'd talk about it.
Three days later, this girl I was kinda friends with told me (and mind you she did it very nice and gently, away from everybody so no one heard) that he was just using me to get Erin jealous and that THEY go out now. BOTH my best friends betrayed me. (and BTW Zach is NO catch whatsoever ><)
And the thing was, in 6th grade I was cutting really bad. I was scard that the situation was gunna make it worse, but It actually didn't.
(Hahahahaa 3 days after they started going out, Erin broke up w him for his other friend XD then he broke up w her for this other girl XDDDDD Oh sweet Karma~)
Yeah, but the next school year, Zach was in most of my classes. He asked if I was still mad. OF COURSE I was mad, but I just said,"No." I didn't wanna give him the satisfaction of knowing I was still on that,
Then, in Algebra, I threatened to cut him with a razor and I had to go to the counseler...hahaha.
THEN, my brothers chased him down on their bikes with a broom and a bat and then he REALLY apologized to me. I kinda forgave him but it still kinda hurt. I mean, my best friend was willing to USE me...

Erin....I forgave her even though I was more mad at HER than at Zach...We were kinda friends through 7th grade (we only had gym together)...but yeah.

But yeah, that was years ago. I'm in 9th grade now, and I've got new friends; one in particular who would never use me like that and that's why I love her.

Writer's Block: Fool me once...

Have you ever been betrayed by a friend or partner who asked for forgiveness? Were you able to forgive and/or forget? What was the result?

yes actually in high school i had a friend who went behind my back and was dating my boyfriend.  It took me 6 months for me to forgive either one of them.  Now i don't talk to any one of them since one just moved away with her new family and the other turned into a redneck and joined the KKK just to make friends

Writer's Block: Fool me once...

Have you ever been betrayed by a friend or partner who asked for forgiveness? Were you able to forgive and/or forget? What was the result?

I have a hard time ever forgetting, but I try to. I tend to easily forgive (even when other friends and family feel I shouldn't forgive). It's a painful feeling, when betrayed again and again. I've been there, and I try to learn from it... I try never to repeat it with the same person.
you, person, mean

Writer's Block: Fool me once...

Have you ever been betrayed by a friend or partner who asked for forgiveness? Were you able to forgive and/or forget? What was the result?

Yes... but this is something I really hate to talk about because it still pains me to this day...
I had moved from Rio Rancho, New Mexico out of my mom's house to Broken Arrow, Oklahoma through a friend named Lauren who had helped me to get an apartment in her complex. We had been friends for years, though we weren't without our occasional fight here and there. She was getting married in a few months time (how this plays out will come later) and I was a scared kid starting out my life. Within a couple weeks of being in the area, I managed to find a job (Wal-mart, not classy but it's money) and a girl that I'm still with to this day, so far life was going pretty good, granted I didn't have many friends but I was still trying to establish myself at that point. It would be in July 12th, 2007 that things would take a twisted turn.

The previous evening, Lauren and I had fought (for reasons I forget) and we were pretty peeved at each other, so through advice of one of her friends, I resolved to call the next day and hopefully smooth things over. I would come home from work on day to find some of the stuff I had given to her, defaced and whatnot on my front door. At that point I really didn't know what to think and tried to call her to find out what was going on. I would get a call from Lauren after I get home from a date with my girlfriend, with her laughing with a bunch of her friends and her fiance' at the time, basically telling me to not talk to her or call her. Aside from a letter I wrote to her telling her how I felt, having the police called on me due to "harassment" when she had sent me numerous texts, answering machine messages and cell phone voice mails in the coming weeks, even during and after her wedding, during her honeymoon, etc. Not long after all of that she moved out of the complex I lived in with her husband, only to find out a month or so later she had divorced him for reasons I'm still not sure are true. Of course my finding out within that same time span that she had cheated (she told me this in a phone call to me) on her husband with the guy she's married to now, had moved in with him and had gotten engaged.

The story is far from over, it didn't end once she had married the guy in 2008, 6 months after her divorce from her first husband (keep in mind she was 22 at the time) and was STILL trying to keep in touch with me, by this point I was so angry I didn't want anything to do with her. I blocked her from everything I possibly could, deleted her cell number and made sure she couldn't track me. Still she managed to find me and tell me that what she was doing to me was deserved and that I should just leave well enough alone, when all I ever wanted was to know why she started this mess in the first place.

There's a lot more to it but I'd rather not go into such painful memories. It wouldn't be for a while that I found out that she was in love with me, was jealous of my current girlfriend, despite she's married and has a child. That she only did those things to maintain an image to her friends who had known her for a while and that she feels guilty of it. Nevertheless, despite her apology I can honestly say I never fully forgave her and I'm quite distrusting of her because of how much she crossed the line at some points. 

I probably shouldn't talk to her but like a fool, I'm a glutton for punishment...
 

Writer's Block: Fool me once...

Have you ever been betrayed by a friend or partner who asked for forgiveness? Were you able to forgive and/or forget? What was the result?

Yes, there are some things that you just can't forgive or forget.
As for the result, we don't talk anymore and I have no intentions
of ever letting him back into my life. He doesn't even know that
I intend on moving out of the state soon.. just gonna disappear.

SPY!

Writer's Block: Fool me once...

Have you ever been betrayed by a friend or partner who asked for forgiveness? Were you able to forgive and/or forget? What was the result?

Oddly enough, all those who betrayed me never asked for my forgiveness. Not a single one. Would I have given it if they did, I don't know. Eventually, I stop feeling hurt and go on with my life, so I guess I would forgive them. But they never asked, so it's not an issue.

Writer's Block: Fool me once...

Have you ever been betrayed by a friend or partner who asked for forgiveness? Were you able to forgive and/or forget? What was the result?

OK, this is a good question.  I have been betrayed be someone who claimed to be a true friend.  Here at the place I live, there are residents who claim to be true friends, and a majority of them are.  Out of a crowd of friends, you often find just one person who isn't a true friend...and betrays your trust by doing stuff behind your back or right in front of you.  That individual I know I am not really god friends with, though she pretends we are.  Another young lady and I used to go to high school together, and we reunited five months ago.  She has betrayed me by constantly wanting to be around me, not really being all right if I don't want to hang out with her.  In that case, I have had to permanently end the "friendship" with her.   In the case of the girl I used to go to school with, there's no way I can forgive her for pestering me...but she thinks I should forgive her; I am not doing that.  In the case of the young lady who betrayed my trust when I first moved here, I can be kind to her, but not a friend.
теньнаскале

Вопрос дня: Суперсила

If you had a special power, would you hide it or share it with the world, and why?
Помогала бы...да вот нет у меня сил ни на что--даже обычных...Слишком много дел и слишком мало сил,как у Михаила Щербакова в старой песне...
spread your wings
  • fileg

Writer's Block: Fool me once...

Have you ever been betrayed by a friend or partner who asked for forgiveness? Were you able to forgive and/or forget? What was the result?


I am good - maybe better than good - at the forgive part. But, except in rare cases where you are absolutely sure it's safe - I don't believe in the forget part. That's just asking to have it done to you again.

I don't mean that I need to bring it up all the time - or ever. Just that I remember, and if I see the same warning signs, I know it's time for me to get out of the way.

Writer's Block: Fool me once...

Have you ever been betrayed by a friend or partner who asked for forgiveness? Were you able to forgive and/or forget? What was the result?

Yes, kinda.  When my mom disowned me someone I thought was my best friend sided with my mom and that was deep betrayal.  She had dragged another of my friends along with her.  But after, that friend came back and asked me for forgiveness.  And I forgave her.  The first friend, the one I had thought was my best never asked for forgiveness and to this day we really aren't friends anymore.  Just acquaintances on facebook.

Writer's Block: Fool me once...

Have you ever been betrayed by a friend or partner who asked for forgiveness? Were you able to forgive and/or forget? What was the result?

I had a girlfriend once who got drunk at a party and "thinks" she may have slept with 3 guys. I was able to forgive, eventually. Mostly cause it's hard to stay mad knowing it took 3 guys to replace you! :) We eventually broke up for good a few months down the road, but that was due to something completely unrelated.

Вопрос дня: Суперсила

If you had a special power, would you hide it or share it with the world, and why?

Я бы устроила анархию. Сврегнула заржавшуюся власть, разогнала чинуш, а люди бы сами решали как жить дальше. Иногда только анархия может стать натсоящей демократией.

Writer's Block: Fool me once...

Have you ever been betrayed by a friend or partner who asked for forgiveness? Were you able to forgive and/or forget? What was the result?

On my last day of work at The Job of Doom, I was seriously, brutally betrayed by two coworkers who I thought were my friends.  I won't repeat the story here.  I'll just say that it was really, REALLY bad.

Truthfully?  It's been 6 months and I still haven't forgiven them.  I severed the "friendship" and told them that they were no longer welcome in my life, despite their claims about "how much they care about me."  I think about what they did every single day and while it doesn't affect my life on a daily basis, per se, it still hurts every time I think about it and I still feel angry. I spent 3 years with these women and we were definitely close.

However, I think that 5 years from now, I'll be able to look back on the situation without anger.  It takes more than 6 months to get over a betrayal from someone you spent every day for 3 years with and cared about deeply.  But it's not impossible and I know that I will, eventually, forgive, even if reconciliation is out of the question.  Forgivness and reconciliation are not the same thing, and in our culture we too often mistake one for the other.  I told them that afterwards - I would never trust them again, and without trust, there's no relationship.  There's that saying that you need to wait the amount of time the relationship lasted to really heal from it ending.  Maybe that's the case here.

However, it did have another result that's good or bad, depending on how you look at it.  I have learned to never, ever, EVER again trust coworkers.  Ever.  No exceptions.  They are NOT your friends, no matter how friendly you may be with them.  And if the situation suited them in that moment, they'd throw you under the bus in .05 nanoseconds without even thinking twice to benefit themselves.  As a result, there is now a 5 foot thick brick wall up between me and the people I work with.  I no longer share phone numbers, text them, or hang out with them in any way outside of work hours except if it's a goodbye party for someone's last day.  No Facebook, no gossiping whatsoever and I reveal absolutely ZERO personal information about myself.  They know nothing but the absolute most basic information about me and I pretty much keep all opinions to myself.  No one is ever again getting any ammo to use against me for their own needs.   

So it taught me a painful but good lesson.  I won't be making the same errors in the future.
mad men

Writer's Block: Fool me once...

Have you ever been betrayed by a friend or partner who asked for forgiveness? Were you able to forgive and/or forget? What was the result?

No I have not. I hope this is not something I have to look forward to. =)

Forgiveness is a big thing though. I have done an unforgiveable thing. Sometimes I wonder if not being able to find my dad has to do with that. =(

Вопрос дня: Обмани меня

Have you ever been betrayed by a friend or partner who asked for forgiveness? Were you able to forgive and/or forget? What was the result?

Человеку по своей природе свойственно прощать. Нужно иметь очень твердый характер, чтобы не простить своего близкого человека. Иногда близкие нам люди совершают просто необъяснимые поступки, которые многие все равно прощают. А если ты не простил дорогого тебе человека, то сам потом мучаешься еще больше его.
  • jcattt

Writer's Block: Taking it on the road

The longest roadtrip I ever did was an over night trip from the Gold Coast to Townsville with my ex girlfriend. We passed the time by starting a list of counting carcuses, listening to a bunch of different mix up cds and overtaking trucks and trying to get them to beep their horns and stopping at different servos eating crappy food. It was fun. Probably one of my best memories with her. 
lovely

Writer's Block: Fool me once...

I find that often we are put into the situation of forgiveness...maybe thats why we dont want to at times. We get tired of it. We see that all around us we are ronged and we are outraged, but we forgot a very simple but important fact. We all make mistakes. I was in my senior year in highschool and i was a girl who laughed loudly, smiled to make others smile, and did what i could to keap myself from falling apart completely. There was only 2 months left of school and then i would graduate and go on to do whatever i was going to do...until...i very unconveniently got expelled. The dean of the girls in our school told me that it was some of my troubled and worried friends that came to them and gave them my secrets. I still dont know exactlly who they are but yet...i forgave them. They hurt me so much and i have surely lost those friends and so many others because now all the people from that school treat me like a stranger. Still you find who your real friends are. I use to call everyone my friend and now im left with only 3 people from there who i can call a close friend. We live and we learn. I learned that trust is easily given but not so easily kept...atleast that is a fact for me. I forgive them and im not angry i just wish that what happened never happened.

Вопрос дня: Обмани меня

предательство - вещь относительная, как, впрочем, и все в этом мире. не прощать очень легкр, простить намного сложнее. учусь этому каждый день. и да, прощала. каждому человеку нужен второй шанс. иногда шансов больше.

Вопрос дня: Обмани меня

Have you ever been betrayed by a friend or partner who asked for forgiveness? Were you able to forgive and/or forget? What was the result?

Предали один раз, отхожу до сих пор. Прощения не просил. Пока не простила, поэтому извиняться бесполезно. Что будет дальше покажет время. Может и благодарна ему буду за то, что всё сложилось именно так. Но ситуация меня многому научила. Так что даже в этой тяжелой ситуации есть свои положительные моменты
baby

Writer's Block: Fool me once...

Have you ever been betrayed by a friend or partner who asked for forgiveness? Were you able to forgive and/or forget? What was the result?
Sincere forgiveness? Never. Mostly chinboogie. I have found that people trangress because they have rationalized their actions... they are "entitled" or "due"...

Do I forgive? I dunno. I just don't think about it anymore. Don't care. The opposite of love is not hate, it is indifference. Hate takes too much energy? Are they worth that?

But I do not believe even a saint forgets...
свечечкаааа гоорииииттт

Вопрос дня: Суперсила

If you had a special power, would you hide it or share it with the world, and why?

МИРУ МИР.НЕ ИСПОЛЬЗУЙ ПАКЕТЫ ПЛАСТИКОВЫЕ ИСПОЛЬЗУЙ БУМАЖНЫЕ.ЗАКРЫВАЙ ВОДУ ИЗ КРАНА КОГДА ЧИСТИШЬ ЗУБЫ.УБИРАЙ В ЛЕСУ.НЕ ХАМИ БЕЗ ПОВОДА 9МЫ ВСЕ СРЫВАЕМСЯ ФАКТ А ВОТ ПООРАТЬ БЕЗ ПОВОДА НЕ НАДО НАДО СТАРАТЬСЯ КОНРОЛИРОВАТЬ АГРЕССИЮ)СТАРАРТЬСЯ ЖИТЬ.ДА .БАНАЛЬНО.ВИДИШЬ?У ТЕБЯ ЕСТЬ ИНТЕРНЕТ,ТЫ ПОЗАВТРАКАЛ И СИДИШЬ ЗА КОМПОМ ДОМА ИЛИ НА РАБОЧЕМ МЕСТЕ.А В АФРИКЕ ГОЛОД.УМИРАЕТ ДИТЕНЫШ СЛОНЕНКА.И ЭТО НАШ МИР.ДА.КТО ТО ТАЕТ ПОД ПУЛЯМИ .КТО ТО ПОДВЕРГАЕТЬСЯ НАСИЛИЮ,ПСИХОЛОГИЧЕСКОМУ ИЛИ ФИЗИЧЕСКОМУ.И ЭТО ТОЖЕ НАШ.МИР.ОН ЕСТЬ.МЫ ВСЕ ЭГОИСТЫ.ИНОГДА МНЕ КАЖЕТЬСЯ ЧТО В ЭТОМ И ЕСТЬ НАША СУПЕР СИЛА...ИНОГДА.....СТОИТ ПРЕОДОЛЕВАТЬ СОВЙ ЭГОИЗМ...ЭТО СЛОЖНО.ЕЩЕ МНЕ КАЖЕТЬСЯ ЧТО ВСЕ ПОКОЛЕНИЯ ЛЮДЕЙ СКОЛЬКО ЧЕЛОВЕЧЕСТВО ВООБЩЕ СУЩЕСТВУЕТ ТОЛЬКО ЭТО И ДЕЛАЕТ...
МИРУ МИР!