September 2nd, 2011

Char's Counterattack

Writer's Block: It’s just a game…

Do you pick truth or dare? Tell us why?


Generally I pick "truth." Regardless of how embarrassed I feel answering some personal question, I know that my embarrassment is only shared amongst a group of friends. Some dares I've been given involve entire hallways full of strangers, and are not experiences I want to relive.
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  • heyjj24

Writer's Block: It’s just a game…

Do you pick truth or dare? Tell us why?

If someone among the group was responsible for my secret, say my crush or secret love, then I'd pick dare. But if the dares that they made are extremely embarrassing, I'd just pray I wouldn't get chosen. Haha! Coward, right? No, seriously... If I felt like they'd ask me who my crush or secret love or hidden desire among them or anyone they knew, and if I seriously liked the guy and if he was still unattached, then maybe I'd pick truth. I would probably just act later on like nothing happened or like I never said such confessions at all, if the effect is something I didn't want, or if he'd start to avoid me or something. Haha! Whatever! But choosing dares was also fun! Hehe!
possessive psychobitch

Writer's Block: Everybody hurts

Have you or a friend ever been bullied? How did you get through it?


Just to save this from turning into a tedious "Daddy, No!" confessional wankfest about boohoo I had a ~difficult~ childhood, I'm going to stick to the highlights: Yes, repeatedly. In primary school, in a reversal of what you might expect, the method was usually more psychological and related to tattling and wind-ups (because I was bigger than most kids my age). However in a particularly brilliant piece of work, a couple of kids in the year above me once followed me most of the way home and cornered me against a wall because I made "really funny" growling noises when upset; I ended up climbing over a 10ft wall mostly by my fingernails and blundering off through several gardens in order to get back to my house. Generally speaking in primary kids were immeasurably pissed off if I did something they didn't approve of and wasn't punished for it (because the adults involved simply didn't care enough), although my headteacher was happy to facilitate appropriate punishment by hauling me into his office and screaming and throwing furniture at me. \o/

Secondary school was kind of where the monster stuff happened, but interestingly also didn't feel as bad because there would be people willing to acknowledge that something bad was happening, and occasionally even someone on my side. There were ways to defend myself, and a process in place, even if it was a failure. Aside from what felt like largely arbitrary beatings, the main issues were to do with having bits of my life controlled for me. Because I was at boarding school, with nowhere really to go, anything and everything could be dictated to me by my "friends"; what I wore, how much I ate, whether I got to eat at all, whether I slept, if I dated, etc, were all determined by people who were ostensibly my peers. It was a bit weird to go from relative freedom at home (which hinged on my mother not really giving a damn what I wore or where I went) to this state of dramatic lockdown on interaction. I wasn't, btw, very GOOD at being obedient and frequently got slapped around as a result. Specific incidents have already been chronicled, involving suffocation, broken pubis, broken cocyx, head injuries, being dragged about by my hair, etc, etc. and I spent a lot of time hiding from people or unobtrusively just Being Somewhere They Weren't.

At Sixth Form everyone was above that sort of nonsense and went largely with exclusion and the amazing new technological phenomenon of Cyber Bullying, oh joy. Lots of fun anonymous guestbook messages calling me a liar and telling me to kill myself. Over... as far as I can work out... very little? Kids in the lower school liked to throw rocks at my head but by then I'd just sort of accepted that violence was part of life.

At university (what, you think it stops after school?) it was mostly just vicious notes shoved under my door, which ... didn't work out so well because by that point I'd realised that I am bigger, meaner, and crazier than most bullies are, and not averse to leaving foot-high death threats in communal kitchens, writing creepy things in my own blood on walls, and if push comes to shove, bottling cunts.

Since then there's only really been Psycho Boss Who Made Me Start Self-Harming Again and the chorus of shrill morons at the last Proper Job who didn't really manage to be particularly intimidating - they tried very hard to cause problems for me at every turn but were somewhat stymied by me not giving a fuck. I mean, a) my bosses liked me more than they did them, and b) what were they going to do, beat me up? Fft. Losers.




Today I dun pub. I was going to do Bletchley Park but I woke up and my body went "I have no idea what the fuck you think you're doing" and I then stayed in bed shivering for another 8 hours. YAY. Pub involved many people I have not seen in quite some time, including Rich Johnston who gleefully informed me that his wife hates me because of some throwaway remark I made while drunk about 8 years ago, and Ade, who spent a lot of time telling me about obscure indie bands which I have - for my sins - actually heard of, and a lot of obscure horror movies which I thankfully haven't. Drank cider, admired chairs, went for a burrito with surprisingly attentive boyfriend, waved my book at people, a good time had by all.

I still need a crack of some timelining software so that I can lay this novel out properly WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS, INTERNET, WHY DON'T YOU LOVE ME WHY WON'T YOU HEEEEEEEEELP MEEEEEEEE don't you want to read about giant bugs?
  • sormell

Writer's Block: Can't we all just get along?

I'm giving into these "Writer's Block" things. 
As a highschool student, and a nerdy one at that, I'm pretty constantly worried about this. So far, it's been minimal, I've been called a lesbian a few times, but that's about the worst. But now, I've planned out a stratagy: simply furrow my eyebrows through the teasing. Look ever so slightly annoyed. Perhaps give an expression of analyzing the teasing. Hounestly, I don't care too much for popularity, but at least it might stanch some teasing at least for a minute or two. 


Writer's Block: Can't we all just get along?

What is one way to stop or prevent bullying?
One way is by example, How can we tell our kids things like "ur so stupid" or "imma beat ur ass" and not expect them to repeat it. im a mother and i am more like the ppl that raised me every day... im guessing that maybe thats cuz thats what i grew up watching kinda makes me think that i learned from example... 
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Writer's Block: Can't we all just get along?

What is one way to stop or prevent bullying?


I never really felt there was a solution to bullying. Bullies are people that feel entitled, and that feeling will always exist, no matter what happens. It takes mental and philosophical control to not become a narcissist in the face of good fortune, and bullies just don't care to do this.

A bully has something they are proud of to the point that they think no one else can have it, comprehend it, or ever attain it. The way to stop that behavior is to find that thing and show them it's not just theirs - that others have it as well. They won't feel anger at the world when they know there are others like them to relate to.

Вопрос дня: Просто игра

Do you pick truth or dare? Tell us why?


да, как-то раз на прогулке в парке я предложила эту игру в качестве забавы. "Правда или дело"
по-началу был какой-то кураж, ибо люди собрались малознакомые друг другу. Но очень быстро от невинных вопросов все скатилось на задавание вопросов на 2 темы: секс и насилие. А делать никто не соглашался ничего.. вообщем, все равно, каждый выходит за рамки только насколько он сам того желает.

Writer's Block: Can't we all just get along?

What is one way to stop or prevent bullying?


It's simple. The bullies should be punished. If the bullies are punished consistantly and harshly, then they will stop. Just telling the victims to ignore the bullying isn't going to help because that lets the bullies get away with it. Bullies need to learn that if you are mean to other people there will be consiquences!
Aiba Again...

Writer's Block: A literary masterpiece

Which books will you certainly read to your children, nieces, nephews or godchildren?


My kids are gonna love harry potter... and they're gonna stay away from twilight. No matter how I look at it, I'd much rather them going around shouting "WINGARDIUM LEVIOSA!!!" OR "EXPELLIARMUS!!!" instead of "I WANNA BE A SPARKLY VAMPIRE LIKE EDWARD!!!" '_'

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Writer's Block: Can't we all just get along?

(Again, had nothing interesting to post, lmao).

Ways to stop bullying. Oh gosh... I've been bullied (verbally *online mostly* - and physcially once...) not a good feeling. :/
I get called ugly everyday, and I'm "stupid" for supporting "slutty" people (Miley, Demi, ect - who btw aren't sluts).
It brings down my self esteem.... But anyways....

What I do to avoid getting hurt by others
What is one way to stop or prevent bullying?
is that I keep my opinion to myself. Like, lets say I don't like Justin Bieber (it's true, I don't), but my bestest friend in the world does. If they ever ask me anything Justin related (ex: do you like him), I would replay saying something like "He's ok." And they respect that. But that's real life...

Online wise... some fans are a little obsessive... Like this for example (it really did happen too).

I got into a "fight" with this girl because she "loved" Demi Lovato (who I am a huge fan of :D) and the next day, she's all "OMG SHE'S A F***ING SLUT!" I asked her why, and she'd reply "because she is. and she's a crybaby too. just like her fans. plus, she took that picture and she's a slut for it." (fyi - that pic was taken in november and she complained about it in march, lmao). I told her that people do worse than that (ik someone who's 16 and she's been smoking since she was 8). She didn't believe me (cuz she's an idiot), and she started hating on me and crap... According to her, I started all this, when really all I did was ask her why. She's a stupid bitch... (and sent me death threats; I still have her message).

Oh, back to the topic. Sorry. Got sidetracked... :/

I know this is a free country and you can say whatever you please, but keeping an opinion to yourself can really stop this drama. If that girl never said she "hated" Demi, and kept that to herself, me and her would probably still be friends. (hey, I don't really like Selena but I never dissed her in front of her - she's a die hard Selena fan. the least she could do was do the same about Demi).

I'm sure there's more ways to stop bullying, but this is pretty much the only thing I get bullied on - Opinions about Celebrities. >.<

The world is messed up, lmao.
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  • torra

Writer's Block: Can't we all just get along?

What is one way to stop or prevent bullying?


I've never done one of these LJ Writer's Block questions, but this one I just had to.

How do we stop bulling? Well we can start by NOT CALLING IT BULLING! It's not bulling, it's fucking assault. No dancing around it, no waving your hands at it and calling it a "phase" or "part of groing up". It's Assault.

It's physical assault, it's mental assault, it's the delibrate act of inflicting mental, physical, and/or emotional distress and harm on someone.

And make no mistake, it is delibrate infliction. It's one person doing whatever they feel they can in order to make another person hurt in any way they can get away with.

You want to stop the crime of bulling? Then start calling it and treaing it like what it is: A CRIME. No ifs, ands, or buts about it. It's a god damned fucking crime and it needs to be addressed as such.

/end of very personal rant


Writer's Block: Can't we all just get along?

The Summer of hate continues. That's my cute play on the summer of love, but because this has been the summer of dark times, more depression, more drug use, and general scummy behavior increasing, I suppose the only appropriate words to use here would be hate or dark or something or another. I don't know anymore.


So I wrote what you just saw above there sometime in late August and I realize now how stupid that is. I'd go into all the details about how I've come to some serious epiphanies lately in my life and how I'm really changing for the good, and growing beyond immaturity into a mature adult man but it's late and I don't want to write an essay right now. I just wanted to write down a few things that I wanted to remember from the last few days though.

The first thing I want to remember is how I felt the day before last when I found this strange red lump on my chest, slightly underneath my left breast (har har guys don't have breasts durrhurr yeah they do). Of course the first thing I think was, oh this is just some weird pimple/zit or something similar, so I feel it a bit to see if I can just pop it like any oridinary zit or pimple, but instead I find a small bubble of pus/blood there instead. So I freak out, I think "jesus christ lump under my breast...this could be cancer". I tell my mother about it, show it to her, and explain I just want to be on the safe side and maybe go to a clinic the next day. She convinces me to try more homeopathic remedies, and alas, it turns out it was indeed just a sort of pimple or maybe an ingrown hair. But for a brief moment I thought about the possibility that I might have cancer, that I might be dying. I cried and whimpered despite my best efforts to avoid it and for a minute I really thought I was going to die soon. I don't want that. I always talk about suicide constantly, but I think I realized that's not what I want.The whole experience was very surreal.

The other thing I wanted to remember was both a blessing and a disaster at the same time. I was walking down the corner of Evarts and Hall street like I normally do every day (to get my daily fix as they say, which is another issue I need to tackle soon) and I just walked by, listening to my ipod care-free when this pretty girl sitting in the back seat of a parked car said to me "Hi...you're cute". I stopped and stumbled for a second, totally taken off guard. My self esteem being about negative 12 billion, the first thing I think of course is "Oh great this random girl just wants to fuck with my head and tease me or something", so I keep walking....she says something else, I keep walking. She yells out "Sorry!" as I continue walking as if she did something wrong, when I suddenly realize god damnit she wasn't messing with me, she was trying to talk to me and maybe flirt and I was too dumb/scared/low to realize it at the moment. Fuckin' drugs will do that to you man. I should have turned around and apologized, introduced myself to her, maybe get her phone number. But no, I just kept walking to go score, thinking I might catch her again on my way back. She wasn't there. Now I feel like shit because there was this pretty girl who went ahead and reached out to me out of the blue and I just ignored her. I feel like such a dick for that. I'm going to hang out around that same area from like 2-5PM tomorrow, maybe she'll be there again? Or maybe one of her friends will? Who knows. I just know that I want to see her again, and apologize for the way I acted, and then ask her out right then and there. And damnit, that's what I'm going to do. Here's to hoping I can find her again.


So yeah, weird entry tonight, right? Get used to it, because journaling my life was something I did extensively for a few years and it's something  I need to do again to get my life back in order. One step at a time. The first step? No more DXM. Ever. EVER. From here on out, I'm done with that devil's nectar. Never again.


Goodnight for now I guess. Tomorrow I will seize the day---both figuratively and literally.
  • pcv2018

Writer's Block: Can't we all just get along?

What is one way to stop or prevent bullying?

Ihonestly don't think there is a way. I've been through it since the 6th grade. I'm in 10th now. That's 4 years. That is 4 years of me hating who I am. That is 4 years of me wantingto kill myself. That is 4 years of me being a complete wreck and everytime I try to clean it up, I fail even more so. How can you stop something you don't know about. Not saying you have no idea what bullying is about. I mean, someone normally will not tell you when or where it's happening. You just know one day when they do something to catch everyone's attention.
CCartoon Miranda &amp; Andy

Writer's Block: The state of perception

Of the five senses (sight, sound, touch, smell and taste), which would you willing to give up, and why?


Taste.

I had to ponder this for awhile, though my initial answer stayed the same.

The greatest loss would be smell which can evoke such memories that one can almost be transported to that exact moment. Not only does your mind remember, but your body does as well...the way you felt with your heart, who you were with, what you were doing, saw, touched, heard, all become a full-sensory recollection that is at once painful as it is wonderful...or not.


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Writer's Block: Can't we all just get along?

What is one way to stop or prevent bullying?


To be honest, and this is mostly among school children, I wish that the kid being bullied could stand up to the bully and not get into trouble with school officials. I know a lot of people think that solving violence with violence is not the answer, but it's not about violence for the one being bullied. It's about showing strength. I remember when I was being bullied by a boy in high school (I'm a girl), he said something nasty to me about how I looked in front of about three teachers. I couldn't take it anymore, grabbed him, and threw him as hard as I could into a locker. He screamed like a little girl, none of the teachers said anything (one told me "Good for you") and he and his friends left me alone the rest of the year. I ran into that boy a few years later at my job, and he actually complimented me on how pretty I was looking that day. It was a very empowering moment for me and I gained control over the situation, something my bully probably figured I'd never dare to do.

Quartier des écrivains.. Sweet tooth

私甘いものには目がないのでキャンディーを断ることできない、特にケーキが好きだ。ケーキ職人になるのは小さい頃からの夢だ。供の頃母に無断でケーキを作っていた者だ。最近体重にはとても気をつけるんだが、どうしてもマカロンにはつい手が出てしまう。こまったなああ 。。  ಠ.ಠ

Writer's Block: Can't we all just get along?

What is one way to stop or prevent bullying?


Stop turning the other cheek when children ostracize others. It is only in utopia that absolutely no bullying would exist, though. The reason why kids and even adults bully one another is because of their differences to others; and well, where would be if everyone was the same?
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Writer's Block: Can't we all just get along?

What is one way to stop or prevent bullying?

Coaching kids, beginning at 3 & 4, in how to respond when they are frustrated or angry with another child. A lot of parents have a "they'll figure it out" mentality, the problem is, they will figure it out if left alone, but they figure it out along the lines of their natural personality, Dominant kids end up bullying because they have the inclination to be stronger and dominate situations, Weaker kids give in when they shouldn't and begin a cycle of being continually targeted as victims because they don't stand up for themselves. Kids can be permitted to figure things out on their own once they have the skills with which to do it. Having worked in HR for 10 years, the number of adults I've had in my office because they were sent to me with complaints of being overbearing or overly aggressive in the workplace is only met by the number of adults with natural victim issues being in my office complaining about not being to assert themselves when co-workers or supervisors were too strong with them.

Вопрос дня: Просто игра

Do you pick truth or dare? Tell us why?
Если это не глупость, то, возможно, попытка разрушить обычное , стереотипное восприятие реальности ...... Дзен-Буддизм, короче! Обычно, когда человек осознает бред вопроса, который задается обязательно со всей серьезностью, сознание впадает в состояние Сатори .... и люди смеются!
Тысячи людей сейчас пытаются сломать мозги. Либо все начнут смеятся, либо рухнет реальность!

If this is not stupidity, then perhaps an attempt to destroy the usual, stereotypical perceptions of reality ...... Zen Buddhism, in short! Usually when a person is aware of nonsense questions that are required in all seriousness, consciousness falls into a state of Satori .... and people laugh!
Thousands of people are now trying to break the brain. Either everyone will laugh or collapse a reality!►
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Writer's Block: Can't we all just get along?

What is one way to stop or prevent bullying?
U. If you think there is a solution to bullying you're dreaming. Mean people have existed since cane and able in the Bible and that's that. People are born mean. I worked in a nursery for new borns and from the moment a Person enters the world they have a personality. So you can't change a mean hateful person. They are who they are. You can react to them though. Bully them back. Most bullies bully people they thiink they can get away with it I've even seen teachers bully the meek. It's called suvivL of the fittest. So if someone wants to pick o. You pick back!!
Whoopass

Writer's Block: Can't we all just get along?

What is one way to stop or prevent bullying?


Fight back. When you do, fight dirty. Just be prepared for all of the anti-bullying measures that were never brought against the actual bullies to be brought against you. Teachers hate it when you ignore their "just ignore them and they'll go away" advice. Remember, kids: Violence doesn't solve every problem. But the problems it does solve, it solves quickly and efficiently.
Diesel

Writer's Block: Can't we all just get along?

What is one way to stop or prevent bullying?



It has to be fixed at the root of the problem. Everyone wants to say that it’s the kids when the truth is it trickles down from the parents, from the media, from older peers. They learn it somewhere; they learn it from their surroundings.

“It’s okay to mess with him. He’s a freak.”

“It’s not my fault she’s so weird. Why does she dress like that?”

“He’s a fag!”

“Why can’t she afford real jeans?”

“Why are his shoes secondhand?”

So many invalid excuses come out of these people and it carries on into adulthood. They torment their peers in a more “adult” fashion then, but they still point out every little thing you do wrong, everything you don’t have, things that make you weird…but they won’t say it outright because it’s “not right.”

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  • fradon

Вопрос дня: Просто игра

Ничего. Могут попросить убить одного. А могут попросить информацию, которая убьет тысячи. лучший способ не зная правил игры, остановить ее на себе. В противном случае пострадает намного больше.

Вопрос дня: Просто игра

Do you pick truth or dare? Tell us why?


Вот странный же ж вопрос, нет?

Сделать, что скажут - в каких обстоятельствах? Одно дело, когда скажут "иди, кидайся головой в навоз", другое дело - парикмахер попросит ее же (голову) "как надо" держать...

Рассказать правду о том, что спросят...

Ээээээээээ
не нравиццо мне вопрос - вот спросят тя на выходе из сортира "чо делал?" - ответите?
Scales

Writer's Block: Can't we all just get along?

What is one way to stop or prevent bullying?


Don't be a fucking bully. Don't physically assault or intimidate other people, don't verbally harass them, don't threaten them. Don't damage or steal their property, don't spread their personal information around, don't make up defamatory shit about them.

Don't ignore bullies. Don't treat them like a fucking fact of nature that everyone has to deal with, don't excuse their behavior as "kids will be kids", and REALLY ESPECIALLY DON'T create the perfect atmosphere for bullies to exist by telling them, in a thousand small ways, that violence, intimidation, and assholery are all okay if your target is different enough. Bullies are too young to have developed all the social awareness that adults have, but the same process of thought that turns children into bullies is called "bigotry" when adults express it. Don't fucking let yourself get away with that shit.

Don't blame the victims for being bullied: don't tell them bullshit ways to prevent bullying, don't send them to self-esteem camp, and particularly don't punish them along with their attackers "just to be fair". Starting a fight is not at all the same as ending it, and if there's a lack of consensus on what exactly happened in a four-on-one scrum that resulted in a set of broken glasses and a broken nose, feel free to ask yourself questions like "is there any possible justification for four older boys fighting with a kid a year younger than them?" before you suspend everyone involved. Oh, and don't ask "well why didn't you tell someone?" when you've given every sign that your sympathy is with the bullies, or that you yourself are a bully. Children are ignorant, but that's not the same as "stupid" or "inobservant".
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Writer's Block: Can't we all just get along?

What is one way to stop or prevent bullying?



It sounds...... I can't think of the word... but my answer is if we would all just be more accepting... and I think it's got to start with the adults being good examples of that....

If adults would get along and accept each other, it would go a long way to kids never learning not to accept each other.

Also, while I'm not against religion in and of itself (necessarily)..... it would go a long way if people would get the better messages out of their book of faith, rather than the bad/judgy stuff.....
Jane_Austin, life, happiness

Writer's Block: Can't we all just get along?

What is one way to stop or prevent bullying?
If it were only that simple. If we were all the same, maybe we could all get along. Since God made us all unique, all different, at one time or another, we are bound and determine not to get along.
If you are like me, I want everyone to like me, I am a people pleaser. I want peace and happiness. I hate drama but it seems like drama lurks and attracts to my life. Drama causes people not to get along. Gossip is the culprit of drama. Dumping on others is the cause of gossip. If we would go to God first, with our problems and not each other, maybe the story wouldn't get twisted around and so many people wouldn't be at odds. Somthing to think about right? 
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Writer's Block: Can't we all just get along?

What is one way to stop or prevent bullying?
Parents need to instill confidence in their children so they don't feel the need to put others down in order to feel good about themselves..

Course, if these parents don't have any self-esteem, how can we expect that -- it is a vicious cycle -- rather like child abuse, and spouse abuse -- people who have experienced it are doomed to repeat it

Mental health and self-esteem go a long way in helping these situations.
Trouble is, most people who have these problems don't even realize they are passing it on to their children.
Hanging Kitty

Writer's Block: Can't we all just get along?

What is one way to stop or prevent bullying?


Easy! If the victim didn't react to the bullying, they wouldn't be bringing it on themselves, now would they? As my grandparents always said to me: IF THEY DON'T WANT TO BE FRIENDS WITH YOU, YOU DON'T NEED THEM ANYWAY. SO STOP YER CRYING, CRYBABY!

Yeah. That sure helped me get out of the bitch seat with the bullying thing.
  • towner7

Writer's Block: Can't we all just get along?

What it feels like to be unpopular. GREAT~!!

by Savannah Mo (listed on FB)on Saturday, August 27, 2011 at 12:34pm

Let me share..

Everyone has a unique event in their lifetime, and last week may just have been that defining moment for a certain young child. Even with all the negative comments made by the local "news sheet", if the outcome bring a "broader awareness" of the importance of how we treat our younger generation, then I say, bring it on. Honestly, I can't help but think, what if this had been an "Amber Alert" situation instead of "child abuse", would those same responsible adults involved reacted the same way? Would the "news sheet" gone all out to attack the messenger?? I wasn't present at the games, but as one of the city official, when a upset, concerned citizen reports a serious incident to me, It's my duty to report it, and to follow it through. My main concern is for the safety of any child under duress. Make no mistakes, I will respond to any child abuse report that is brought to my attention.
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just one who was brave enough to speak out..

Tasha Krueger.

Tasha Krueger I am so glad that someone is concerned for that poor child. I have worried about him everyday since that event took place. It was truly heartbreaking and I have never witnessed anything like that in my whole life.
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