October 4th, 2011

Муми-тролль

Вопрос дня: Православные выставки

Посещали ли вы когда-нибудь православные выставки? Если да, то почему?


Ну, если они имеют художественную ценность, то почему бы нет? Однако, заметила, что у нас в магазинах стали смешивать книги, написанные священниками и искусствоведами. Намеренно? Просто пролистала тут одну - ни на грош исторической и культуроведческой инфы, зато до фига богословской, которая мне до лампочки. Почему такую книгу продают в разделе по искусству?

Writer's Block: Anti-bullying month

Who is the biggest bully in your life? One response chosen at random will win an Amazon Kindle. [contest details] (sponsored by )

I actually have to say my manager, because he belives he's in a position to insult you and control you an he's pretty much right, cause theres not really anyone you can go to, to complain unless you want to lose your job.

Writer's Block: Anti-bullying month

Who is the biggest bully in your life? One response chosen at random will win an Amazon Kindle. [contest details] (sponsored by )


In school, especially middle school, the question would be who wasn't my biggest bully. I was constantly harassed and mocked for being overweight, having acne, being smart, being quiet, being shy, etc. It was a painful time in my life, and I regret that I handled it by running away; but I was only fourteen, and I didn't know how to fight it.

Nowadays, I'm my biggest bully. But I'd say that's a side-effect of being bullied by others for so long. My self-esteem is nonexistent.
joongki
  • yanneng

Writer's Block: Anti-bullying month

Who is the biggest bully in your life? One response chosen at random will win an Amazon Kindle. [contest details] (sponsored by )
All my life I've always been afraid of being myself. From young, they've called me ahgua, sissy and so many other names. And it seems like every time I got closer to daring to be myself, something just stops me. It could always just be a comment, or just a whisper; there was once I was in MacDonalds' and the boy behind me in the queue, an absolute stranger, whispered, "Faggot," in my ear and I couldn't stop shaking after that. But no, the worst bully I've ever had in my life is the one that refused to stand down, despite everything I did. I ignored him, I shouted back, I cried -- and he never relented.

It was during my army stint, for National Service. When I first met him, he just seemed like a weird chap; but the more I became myself, the more he wanted to fuck with me. He made me cry countless times with his endless insults that come from nowhere, with his hands that just came to hit you where you least expect it and it was just endless. It never stopped. And it also showed me how superiors have no power in things like these; we were 'men' and we were supposed to handle it ourselves. He was one of the star soldiers in our platoon; so what could we do? If I do complain, would they be likely to support him, the star soldier or me, the sissy one who is definitely less useful on the battlefield? And despite that, I complained; and despite that, nothing happened.

The shittiest thing is I couldn't avoid him. He was just hit every single insecurity; every time I flounced, he made a comment, every time I did anything, even if it was to the best of my ability, he was there mocking me. I really do hate him; but there's nothing I can do. We have left army since then; and I hope I won't ever get to see him again, but I know that during reservist, his face will still be there and what I would like to do most is to punch it but I can't.
dynamic duo

Writer's Block: Riddle me this

What is something that just doesn't make sense to you?
A lot. Politics. Homophobia. Racism. Misogyny. MISOGYNY IN DC COMICS. Misogyny in American culture. The wars being fought. How exactly my paycheck is being fucked by taxes. How people have not stormed Congress with torches and pitchforks.
WHY THE FUCK ARE HOUSE AND WILSON NOT SHAGGING AND LIVING TOGETHER YET???
Why can't we say 'fuck corporations' and think about people? I don't believe in socialism. I am a selfish capitalist who wants to get paid for my blood, sweat, and tears but it is not ok to fuck over so many people who are trying to stretch a dollar every single day.
That was a bit much but I'm pissed off.
Gentle Rose

Writer's Block: Anti-bullying month

Who is the biggest bully in your life? One response chosen at random will win an Amazon Kindle. [contest details] (sponsored by )


The biggest bully in my life was probably me.

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TL;DR


I was a bully, and I was bullied. I was the tough girl of the playground and of the block who managed to bully people without every laying a finger or a word on them. I was also shunned by my peers while barely clinging on to my friends, and eventually even assaulted for something that is such a small part of me and yet such a big part of what people see in me.

To this day, I struggle with trying not to bully others, trying not to be domineering. I try not to turn into a "bad boss", hurting and ignoring others to my ego-stroking benefit and at their expense.

There are a lot of types of bullies and a lot of reasons people bully, and there will be no one, easy solution to depend on to get rid of it, or even make a dent in it. But one type of bully I can say we can help is the ones who don't know that they are bullies.

And yes, they exist. They think their roughhousing is just playing, and don't realize that it's not playing when your friend/opponent is not nearly of your size or skill level. They think their back-and-forth insults are just joking around, without realizing that some of the people around them take these words to heart in a negative way. They believe what they are doing is truly okay, because they are seeing it on TV and in books and in video games that it's okay, and everyone expects someone else to do it so no one is just talking with them about it.

I can't speak for every bully or bullying victim, or even most, but I can speak for the ones who were like me in saying that we need to stop relying on bullshit campaigns and false platitudes, and that we need to start figuring out what bullying is and what it means for kids today, where they are getting the message from. The existing plans and campaigns against bullying are great, and they get a lot done, but they ultimately only reach out to a few kids because they only target a few specific types of bullies - they get a lot done but not enough, because we are placing too high and unrealistic expectations on them. We need to quit the futile efforts against stopping these ideas and instead equip kids with the ability to filter these ideas, learn what is and isn't okay, because if we don't, then no one else will - after all, no one else has so far.

No one did for me until it was too late.






What the hell did I just type 3300 words in an hour?! I spend 3 years ignoring that 'Writer's Block' widget on the LJ homepage and this is what gets me?!

Writer's Block: Anti-bullying month

Who is the biggest bully in your life? One response chosen at random will win an Amazon Kindle. [contest details] (sponsored by )


The biggest bully in my life was probably me.

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TL;DR


I was a bully, and I was bullied. I was the tough girl of the playground and of the block who managed to bully people without every laying a finger or a word on them. I was also shunned by my peers while barely clinging on to my friends, and eventually even assaulted for something that is such a small part of me and yet such a big part of what people see in me.

To this day, I struggle with trying not to bully others, trying not to be domineering. I try not to turn into a "bad boss", hurting and ignoring others to my ego-stroking benefit and at their expense.

There are a lot of types of bullies and a lot of reasons people bully, and there will be no one, easy solution to depend on to get rid of it, or even make a dent in it. But one type of bully I can say we can help is the ones who don't know that they are bullies.

And yes, they exist. They think their roughhousing is just playing, and don't realize that it's not playing when your friend/opponent is not nearly of your size or skill level. They think their back-and-forth insults are just joking around, without realizing that some of the people around them take these words to heart in a negative way. They believe what they are doing is truly okay, because they are seeing it on TV and in books and in video games that it's okay, and everyone expects someone else to do it so no one is just talking with them about it.

I can't speak for every bully or bullying victim, or even most, but I can speak for the ones who were like me in saying that we need to stop relying on bullshit campaigns and false platitudes, and that we need to start figuring out what bullying is and what it means for kids today, where they are getting the message from. The existing plans and campaigns against bullying are great, and they get a lot done, but they ultimately only reach out to a few kids because they only target a few specific types of bullies - they get a lot done but not enough, because we are placing too high and unrealistic expectations on them. We need to quit the futile efforts against stopping these ideas and instead equip kids with the ability to filter these ideas, learn what is and isn't okay, because if we don't, then no one else will - after all, no one else has so far.

No one did for me until it was too late.






What the hell did I just type 3300 words in an hour?! I spend 3 years ignoring that 'Writer's Block' widget on the LJ homepage and this is what gets me?!

Writer's Block: Anti-bullying month

Who is the biggest bully in your life? One response chosen at random will win an Amazon Kindle. [contest details] (sponsored by )

I wonder if anyone responded "myself."

Because sometimes, it is the voices in your own goddamn head that hold you back the most.

A person saying that you are worthless is just a person telling you that you are worthless.

You telling yourself that you are worthless? Odd way to think of it isn't it? It is not the 'bully' that makes you worthless, but it is the thought process that is triggered by the 'bully' that makes you say to yourself that you are worthless.

Learn to empower yourself. Then this won't be a problem.

And stop bullying yourself for crying out loud.


я
  • orave

Вопрос дня: Православные выставки

Посещали ли вы когда-нибудь православные выставки? Если да, то почему?
Да. Потому что многим экскурсоводам свойственно максимально насыщать экскурсии обозрением культовых сооружений, в которых выставки и распродажи довольно часто при этом проходят. Не знаю уж, чем оно обусловлено: то ли разнарядку им дают, то ли деньгами мотивируют. Доходит до смешного. Довелось побывать на религиозно-ориентированной экскурсии в музее Чернышевского(!), на которой солидная часть рассказа касалась того, какие замечательные и набожные у него были родители и как он ошибался в своих религиозных воззрениях. К счастью, православную выставку в музее Чернышевского тогда ещё не догадались ввернуть.
gen love is

Writer's Block: Anti-bullying month

Who is the biggest bully in your life? One response chosen at random will win an Amazon Kindle. [contest details] (sponsored by )


I had a professor in college who constantly belittled my work, told me that my writing was awful, and gave me really poor grades. It took a long time to realise this was actually bullying, because in my mind, that stuff happened to kids in grade school, not twenty-year-olds in their junior year of college. It took me almost three months to realise what was going on and drop the course.

Вопрос дня: Православные выставки

Посещали ли вы когда-нибудь православные выставки? Если да, то почему?
В этом году посетила выставку в Киево-Печерской Лавре - впервые в жизни!  Увидела несколько чудотворных икон, и мирроточивых даже, привезённых из разных храмов Украины. Мне удалось приложиться к ним и получить благословения от Батюшек. Здесь можно было купить мирру и благовония, иконы и др. Это удивительное место и мероприятие! Всем советую!

Writer's Block: Shhh… Don’t tell

Do you keep your LiveJournal a secret from someone?
Frankly speaking, I am rather shocked when I read other answers to this writer's block question.

I don't really keep it a secret from someone, in fact for me, it's kind of everyone.
The fact that no one except for a handful of living beings that know about this LJ that I had started are people that I am close with, and comfortable with.
It's not that I kept it a secret, it's probably the fact that I don't find that person such a big deal that I were to reveal this site to them.
It is also due to the fact that I don't think that they care enough to actually want to know what I think.

Like I mentioned previously, very much ancient, when I first started my LJ.
I use an analogy, that I don't wish to rehash.

If someone who know me, came across my LJ - which is improbable, because it is unlikely that they would know it is me - it's okay.
No, not really okay.
I think I am very honest, like I bare myself to the world.
Although I am not 100% truthful here, but compared to the 50% truth, 50% fascade out there.
This is a lot better.
So, I don't wish to have people reading my thoughts, without me knowing.
Like I mentioned very previously, comment or something.

What's not said, cannot be consider lies/secret, just untold/unknown.
I admit, my silence sometimes can be misleading.
and they are sometimes, intended to be.

When the time comes, and I am ready, I will reveal it to you.
You just have to let me have the confident to know that my thoughts are safe with you.
Dumbfounded
  • krrisc

Writer's Block: Anti-bullying month

Who is the biggest bully in your life? One response chosen at random will win an Amazon Kindle. [contest details] (sponsored by )
I would say myself. I bully myself. Haha. Not physically though. I'm admittedly a pushover. Just to be clear I don't have enemies. ;) I only said i bully myself because i don't say exactly what is on my mind every time someone is telling me things that i know i don't deserve. I usually just stay quiet because i'm afraid that when i explain my side or say what i want, it would just create more drama and that i'd only be misunderstood. I also try my best to understand why people act a certain way. Thank God for the patience He's given me. Haha. So most of the time, i end up "hurting" myself emotionally because i couldn't stand up for myself. But praying, a little crying, and talking to my sister help me a lot getting through all those unhappy moments of my life.

Writer's Block: Anti-bullying month

Who is the biggest bully in your life? One response chosen at random will win an Amazon Kindle. [contest details] (sponsored by )

I would put the subject as "On reading (part of) "Civilization and its Discontent" by Sigmund Freud


As I am currently reading a book written by Sigmund Freud, a book that I haven't finished.

I would say that the biggest bully is civilization.

Because I do agree that myself is the biggest bully in my life, alongside with many others who consciously and unconsciously constantly bring me down.

But the most important thing is; human behaviour are all taught.
You weren't born, and suddenly you tries to overpower yourself with violence or personal attacks verbally.
Someone, something must have made you learn that skill.

Every bully was a victim once.
Or maybe you're a by-stander, which sees how effective the power of bullying was, that causes you to go this path.

Civilization creates unneccessary laws and rules - both written and unwritten - to keep people in control by inducing guilt, self-blame and reasons to be outcast.
Like sex, for example, Freud says that children are actually very sexual creature. We have a pleasure principle that we have to adhere to.
People start to criticise him, and says that so we shall encourage sex now?

No, not that.
But we have to stop restricting people and things like making sexual innuendo that makes people feel bad making love or even feel that something that makes you feel good is bad.

I think that is why; civilization gives people the reason to bully. they created the guidelines. they are the biggest bullies, as they taught us as a way of life. It is incultivated into our lives, that it seems normal to bully. Normal to prejudge others, and mainstream thing to do.


  • bardova

Вопрос дня: Православные выставки

Посещали ли вы когда-нибудь православные выставки? Если да, то почему?
Нет, но на эти произведения искусства стоит  посмотреть, возможно, когда-нибудь схожу.
barb

Writer's Block: Anti-bullying month

Who is the biggest bully in your life? One response chosen at random will win an Amazon Kindle. [contest details] (sponsored by )


funny enough I was just coming to LJ to write an entry about bullying. I've been meaning to do it for awhile now, its just been on my mind. I don't know why but it is. and it is taking me a lot to write this so please idk don't judge me for being a loser.

I feel like my entire life I have been bullied by my peers. starting from when I was really young with my neighbors. Why? because I followed the rules and did what my parents told me to do. I feel the need to "tell" on people, even nowadays, even if it is in normal conversation. I don't know why I just do. and the neighborhood kids didnt like that and liked to play jokes on me and ostracize me. It went on in school too. I don't know. I've just been a good two shoes and do things the right way. And I was smart. I've been hella smart since I was little. asking questions, and others just werent. And it wasnt cool being a girl and being smart. When I went to girl scout camp one year, in order to fit in I had to lick the tent :( which was filthy. I'm suprised I didnt get sick. I thought one of the neighborhood kids wanted to kill me also. This was around columbine too so the tensions and fear were high. I ran home from the bus stop everyday. I've just felt different than them. and I don't know. by the time high school came around people had their cliques and I was the weird girl who was annoying and clingy at times. I stuck to travis because no one else really was there for me. and I was weird because I didnt party or smoke or do drugs or drink. I was smart. I always said in school that I was there for my education not to make friends :/

Even first year my roommates bullied me because I was a nerd and too straight edge for them. It was my first feeling of inclusion though, until anthony came along and ruined everything. For the first time in my life I felt like i fit in 2nd year. I had Mike and Jenn and Jenn's friends and we all were just friends nothing more. I felt included into things. I was around people who got what it felt like not to fit in and we all fit in together in a weird way. Third year I started dating mike and felt even more "in" maybe thats why I clung to the idea of dating him for so long. because I wanted to feel involved in things. Once we started breaking up, I started to feel more and more left out of things because he wasnt including me, and jenn and I had stopped talking because she gave me an ultimatum, him or her, and i decided the first person to give me an ultimatum was going. Mike WANTED me to be friends with her.

and then I felt lost again. I feel like no one from the old store wants to talk to me after I broke up with Michael. I feel left out at work because I work with people who were the bullies in high school. Those who are 24 and either dropped out of community college or are still going there. They have no life and no future. all they do is drink and party. It's pathetic. But I don't fit in because of that.

It all makes me feel weird and like a loser. and different. Just because I'm not like you doesnt mean that I'm a horrible person. I've learned to be a bitch over time as a defense mechanism because I don't know how to act or what to say. Even in class today I felt like I was having eyes staring at the back of my head and people rolling their eyes because I've done it to others. But I'm the only one who talks and the professor wants that. He said he needs someone to talk to. but I felt bullied, even if I didnt see it. Over time it's probably paranoia but its still weird.

I was talking to Mike about this at the beginning of the summer. I know I made an entry about it, but I asked him what was wrong with me and why I was so different. he told me that I am perfect the way that I am and that why would I want to be friends with people like that. When I went out with his friends on 9/11 I felt included. even after not seeing them for 2 years. They made me feel so loved. and it was nice. It was the first time in awhile I didnt feel like an outcast, even if I dont do well in social situations usually. I also feel totally comfortable around most of the pharmacy kids because they get me and my humor also. We spent 6 years together in every class. It became like a family. and even if I am not as close to everyone as I would have liked, they still make me feel normal. it is just tough now because they arent around. and people in my classes don't get me or why I focus on school and my roommate doesnt seem to get that I don't go out because I don't have anyone here. Mike gets out of rotations at 3:30 and has to be up at 5:45am everyday. he is the only person I'd hang out with. and there is just nothing to do in the middle of the day other than eat and you get fat like that. Andrew and Idil are too far away :(

and now I am worried about getting jobs or not getting a job and then being left out again in the world. Living at home, single, people being far away who care about me. I'm at a tough stage in my life again. I feel lonely and left out and bullied once again in my life because I now open my mouth and have an opinion because I'm older and wiser and others around me at work and school haven't matured.

and I'm not saying I am perfect because I know im not and I have bullied others who are/were different. but we all have at one point or another. I've just been reflecting on everything lately and this kills me. and like even little things, like this job fair at school tomorrow makes me feel weird. Why? because I am going into healthcare and they have only 1 location for healthcare out of 100. Everyone else is markeying/sale or finance/accounting. and I don't fit in there also. I have a passion for helping people, not for numbers or helping people pick out the right shirt...

I should sleep I have class at 7:30am. I'm sorry I am different and I know I shouldn't make any apologies for it. But I just feel like sometimes I'm stared at and looked down upon and I know some of it is in my head, but others arent. :/
человечек

Вопрос дня: Православные выставки

Посещали ли вы когда-нибудь православные выставки? Если да, то почему?

Да, у меня подружка в таких выставках принимает участие. Зрелище удивительное, ни с одной ярмаркой не сравниться! Чего там только нет: и святыни всякие и сувениры, одежда в русском стиле, мед. С собой надо брать фотоаппарат, священнники в рясах с ноутбуками и монашки с сотовыми телефонами и много другой экзотики. Сходите хотя бы раз!

Вопрос дня: Православные выставки

Да, посещала, хотелось купить что-нибудь из монастырский изделий, книги, мёд, может ещё что. Но святые иконы в ярморочно-базарном месте немного огорчают. Не место им там. 
  • ktylx

Вопрос дня: Счастье

Что нужно человеку, чтобы быть счастливым?
Да просто осознай что живёшь! прекрати строить идеалы и воздушные замки в мечтах и иллюзиях! знай что ты совершенное существо и всего можешь добиться.. главное счастье иметь полноценное тело и ум стремящийся к саморазвитию, а деньги, любови там всякие.... и прочие материальные и духовные выгоды создашь себе сам !
flareon, eevee, firery

Writer's Block: Shhh… Don’t tell

Do you keep your LiveJournal a secret from someone?


I keep my Livejournal a secret from EVERYONE I know. At least offline anyhow. Who wants to read my stuff? And better yet? Who is going to? It's like writing an angry letter that never gets sent. It makes me feel all warm and fuzzy spilling my heart out and no one i know (As far as friends and close people) will read and be all "Why'd you say that? Wah wah wah."

I say suck it the fuck up. Someone talked smack about you. And..? They liked you enough to even open their mouth up and talk about you. Grown the fuck up.

Writer's Block: Anti-bullying month

Bullies exist because we let them be... 

I received ugly names, angry stares, whispers, vandals and weird made up stories from teachers, classmates, parents, even relatives because they hated me, my mother and our financial standing. They always seemed to have an opinion about me before meeting me personally. And by the time they see me, they made up their minds on what I would be. 

They seemed to enjoy making me miserable. They ridiculed my appearance and tried to hinder my accomplishments. The hardest part was they even tried to convince my friends to go against me. And that was my Elementary days.  

I could say these embarrassing and painful memories from my childhood bullies altogether made up the ultimate bully.  Why? I mean, those bullies went away with their own lives. Some became okay, others miserable. How could they reach me now? 

Simple. What they did when I was young carved permanent impressions of sadness deep within me. My memories mocked me.

These became shadows who’d follow me around, reminding me if my imperfections. I had issues of mistrust and self doubt among others.

I know they sound practically rubbish and idiotic but it's difficult to say when you're experiencing it yourself. You only get to realize your own fault when you try looking back. I feared I became a magnet of a series of unfortunate social interactions.

Then, I realized the only way to avoid being hurt was to live a carefree, borderline lazy, life.
 
I became a mediocre. In that way, I still lost to them.
 
Hence, I realized I had to embrace myself to move on. And I met a few people who helped me along the way. 

I tried to see the positive side that, at an early age, I was exposed to different kinds of people - loyal, trustworthy,kind, malicious, envious, traitors, etc. the lines between these traits are blurred for the world is not black and white. However, we will still meet those beings who would understand, accept and mingle with us.



 
sainted

Writer's Block: Anti-bullying month

Who is the biggest bully in your life? One response chosen at random will win an Amazon Kindle. [contest details] (sponsored by )


Me. I'm in a place in my life where no one in my life, is allowed in my life, if they reach out and try to hurt or control or belittle me.
Sounds like I should hold myself to the same standard. Sometimes, it's a battlefield within me.

Writer's Block: Anti-bullying month

Who is the biggest bully in your life? One response chosen at random will win an Amazon Kindle. [contest details] (sponsored by )
Personally, and out of experience, I'd say yourself. Purely because of how much I put myself down and if something doesn't go well, or I do something wrong, then I'll tell myself for days afterwards that I'm a failure and a disappointment, something that will not help me in the future. As someone who was bullied in the last few years of Primary School, and more or less through out Secondary School, it's kind of a hmm and a haa between myself and other people. But, by telling myself that I can't do something, I think it would affect me and has done, more than what anybody else has ever done to me, which when I compare it to other people's experiences, are hardly important. 

Writer's Block: Anti-bullying month

Who is the biggest bully in your life? One response chosen at random will win an Amazon Kindle. [contest details] (sponsored by )


I am.

I am my own downfall.

I know I am capable of so many things and when I can't achieve them, I go to those dark places of self-hatred.

What I want out of life is to be pleased with myself... Mentally, emotionally, physically, and spiritually.

You'd be surprised how complicated that really is.

-Ashke
communism, joseph stalin, communist, stalin

Writer's Block: Anti-bullying month

Who is the biggest bully in your life? One response chosen at random will win an Amazon Kindle. [contest details] (sponsored by )
Myself.

I used to get picked on. I began to defend myself and eventually was feared by them. 
I used to get made fun of. I honed my wit and lacerated them with a silver tongue.
Girls didn't like me. Now I'm the best thing that ever happened to them.

You are the only person from releasing your full potential. Bully's are just the cocoon that prevents you from being the butterfly.

Now beat the shit out of that cocoon.
Saya

Writer's Block: Just stop, already!

What’s your biggest pet peeve?
People blasting their music on their cell phone
Co-workers who talk about their life with a loud voice and also swearing while we have customers and think that I actually give a rat's hide..
Empty cartons/containers in the Fridge or cabinet
Dirty Shower/Tub
Druggies
Bums
communism, joseph stalin, communist, stalin

Writer's Block: World Vegetarian Awareness Month

What's your favorite vegetarian meal?
Bacon wrapped steak.

...wait.. 

Why is their a vegetarian awareness month? 

I thought the whole point of awareness months was that you were trying to bring awareness to something you can change [race, sexuality, etc] not life choices.

This is fucking stupid.

  • kathy74

Writer's Block: Anti-bullying month

Who is the biggest bully in your life? One response chosen at random will win an Amazon Kindle. [contest details] (sponsored by )
I would have to say the biggest bully in my life is my 22 year old nephew.  He has been bullying me for years.  I finally couldn't take it any more, he hit me and I had him arrested. Now he won't even talk to me on the phone. 
blind justice

Writer's Block: Blast to the past

If you could travel back in time, what would you tell your 10-year-old self?


Dear Ten-year-old self.

It sucks not having any friends huh? I know it does. Believe be, it sucks because it doesn't get any better anytime soon. And that's not what you want to hear. You want to hear you become popular, people really like you, your mom leaves your step-dad.. FINALLY and things are back to the way things were. I wish I could tell you that this all happens. I do, I really do wish I could tell you this. But I can't, I would be lying to you, more so than Jared and Brandon and Mike and all the other guys you are talking to online right now.

Jared's going to break your heart. Some kind of bad. Horribly so and you may not make it through it. but you will. because you are a lot stronger than you think you are. Yet you will continue, for what seems like a bit more of an eternity, continue to stalk guys online. You'll meet some serious creeps. Guys who'll ask you for inappropriate pictures and say what they think is appropriate things to you. It's not good and you're wise, you will run away.

Chances are now, you're going to resent people from now on because you are only going to see the bad people in them. But not everyone person is a bad person. I can promise that for you, they aren't. They aren't. There are good people, and you won't see that because they won't present themselves to you till it's far too late. I wish I could tell you that at the age in which I'm writing you all this, twenty-four, that I'm happily involved with a wonderful man who whisked you off your feet. It doesn't happen and I'm sorry. I tried but I won't bore you with those facts.

Let's just say that when you get older, you learn a lot. And you live a lot too. Your heart will be broke and you will feel broken. But you are strong and are capable of taking any and all hits. Don't look at things in such a negative light. You will be better, get better, and someone will... Will sweep you off your feet. Don't you ever think you aren't good enough.

-The older me

Writer's Block: Anti-bullying month

Who is the biggest bully in your life? One response chosen at random will win an Amazon Kindle. [contest details] (sponsored by )
Biggest bully in my life is me myself.. Because I let myself to be bullied by others..
When my very first time comeback to my own country, i wasn't able to speak in our mother tongue.
Since i was born and raised at Britain, it is a big deal for me to speak in Malay ( Malaysian's National Language)
And when i barely speak Malay, my classmates made fun of me.. It was back then when i was at my first grade.
I was bullied and been teased because i can't really understand what others talk about..
So, based on that I learned that I shouldn't been bullied and  I change myself..start to learn more about our mother tongue and avoid the Bully..
All that the person who has been bullied is Self-improvement and confident!

Вопрос дня: Православные выставки

Посещали ли вы когда-нибудь православные выставки? Если да, то почему?
"Посещали ли вы когда-нибудь православные выставки? Если да, то почему?"

Не посещал и не планирую, ибо мозг это самое ценное, что есть у человека.
pink quill and paper
  • speadee

Writer's Block: Desert island

List three books that have changed your life:
My response is actually a combination from two past Xanga Daily Questions:
1) Has a fictional character ever given you an epiphany that helped in real life?
2) Have you ever read a book that made you change the way you think about certain things? What was it?


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Вопрос дня: Православные выставки

мне кажется, что это вовсе излишне. выставки? что за бред ? неужели вера и ее культура настолько обесценились в наше время, что православие не может привлечь внимание к себе ничем, кроме выставок. это извращение уже какое то. вера должна жить в душе, но не как не под стеклом у всех на виду!

Writer's Block: Anti-bullying month

Who is the biggest bully in your life? One response chosen at random will win an Amazon Kindle. [contest details] (sponsored by )

As a child there were so many kids that bullied me, it's really hard to pick out just one. I wasn't a pretty kid, or an athletic kid, and I had very few friends. In the 6th grade I was a target in gym class and was hit in the face with those red bouncy balls repeatedly; one after another the kids threw them at my face. My nose bled the entire day. It was the first time that the bullying turned violent. It's one of those memories that when you think of it, you wish you could erase it. I hate remembering how mean those kids were. Children don't realize how damaging bullying can be to a person's self esteem. I'm happy that I was able to change the things about myself that those children found so unappealing, but I really wish people could learn to be more accepting of their peers. If my looks and the fact that I was poor hadn't been such an issue for those children, I might have enjoyed going to school. But, I didn't. I hated life.
pink quill and paper
  • speadee

Writer's Block: Eraser Dust

If you could delete one thing in life from ever existing what would it be, and why? (e.g., paper not being invented or the color ‘blue’)
There are many things I would like to delete from life, but I think the two things I would like to delete the most would be evil and suffering.  Actually, getting rid of evil would reduce suffering as well as many of the unpleasant things in the world, such as violence, deceit, and improper behavior.

Actually, something I would like to delete from my life is myself, because the things I've done have badly affected my family, friends, and the rest of the world.  Someone who is evil like me should not even be born, so it would be much better if I've never existed.

Вопрос дня: Православные выставки

Посещали ли вы когда-нибудь православные выставки? Если да, то почему?
Что еще за православные выставки? Это там, где яйца с пасхи разноцветные? Нет, над религией не смеюсь, не гоже да и лень, но всему должен быть разумный предел. Данная "идея" в современном обществе поизносилась чтолЕ, уезжая из столиц и миллионников, подальше за кольцевые автодороги и мимо дачь, деревень, грибных и рыбных мест, понимаешь - да! Здесь и тут ей все еще самое место. В пробке же, да в гулких переходах метро, на все это "как-то" не хватает времени. Люди приходят к этому конечно в разные периоды своих жизней, но все же это не потому ли, что просто больше не к чему??!! Многим проще прикрепить к "торпеде" иконку, чем каждый раз пристегивать ремень безопасности, но это ли вера в сознании среднего жителя планеты? Дольше веры на Земле существует лишь одна "идея" - мани! Это тоже своего рода религия, но уже не такая всепрощающая, скорее даже наоборот - не прощающая ошибок! Как ни прискорбно сознаваться, но мы все втянуты в эту поруку - заработал-спустил, кто-то от з/п до з/п, у кого-то получается заставлять работать за себя других, но так или иначе мы все здесь, что б урвать... и вот здесь религия права, это SAD.
Aurelius

Writer's Block: Just stop, already!

What’s your biggest pet peeve?


People who use "decimate" when they really mean "annihilate."

Followed by

People who say "mute point" instead of "moot point."

Followed by

People who start every sentence in a disagreement with "Sorry but..." or "No offense but..."


And if people could stop comparing other people to HITLER for no fucking real reason, that'd be AWESOME.
  • d_mitia

Вопрос дня: Православные выставки

Посещали ли вы когда-нибудь православные выставки? Если да, то почему?
А нахера? Попам карманы набивать?На этих выставках что-то впаривают.(пусть даже ненавязчиво).

Writer's Block: Just stop, already!

What’s your biggest pet peeve?


I have quite a few. I don't think I'll go into all of them, but here are some.

* Rude, abusive people
* Arrogant, stuck up asses
* When guys leave the toilet seat up
*People that like to butt into other people's business when they have no vested interest in it either way.
* Neighbors blasting shitty music when I'm trying to sleep

I think that's enough for now. LMAO. ;P
  • archnix

Вопрос дня: Православные выставки

Посещали ли вы когда-нибудь православные выставки? Если да, то почему?
Нет, ибо лож поповская, начинает с того, что они называю себя православными, а не правоверными ортодоксами.
Reiko-OLTL-1

Writer's Block: Shhh… Don’t tell

 Pretty much everyone from real-life. I get enough flack for commenting on shipper scenes in episodes of the shows I like, I am definitely not going to let it be known to people that I read and write fan-fiction. That's something I'd never hear the end of. 

Also I can bitch about real life people on here if I want to, the anonymity is great for that ,so nobody finds out about my LJ Alias. 
Dice

Writer's Block: Just stop, already!

What’s your biggest pet peeve?


People who have no backbone and yet feel that they're entitled to a lot more than they deserve. And probably irresponsible people who bring their noisy brats to movie theaters and restaurants and proceed to ruin the experience of everyone around them while they sit there and ignore their hellspawn's incessant howling.

~Lotus~
sketch

Writer's Block: Anti-bullying month

Who is the biggest bully in your life? One response chosen at random will win an Amazon Kindle. [contest details] (sponsored by )
The first thing that I thought of when I read the question was "my mom". I mean, I love my mom, but she can just be so negative sometimes. There are moments when I just think that she's absolutely mental. She's nice to her friends but it's a whole different demeanor when she's with us. She has a tendency to be fake, and it really irks me because I know the real her. She has done nothing but say stuff against everything I do, be it from my everyday routine to my important life decisions. And I can't even remember the last (or first) time I received a compliment from her, but whoopeedo, ask her about her friend's children's accomplishments and she can enumerate it one by one.

I don't want to go into specifics. She's basically emotionally draining, and that's an understatement.

However, I guess I can say that my mom is not that bad. I mean, I've been through worse when I was in grade school. I've been teased about how I looked, which I didn't understand then because I really couldn't find anything wrong with my appearance. I still don't. I don't know what was up with those people because I wasn't even an ugly kid! It's a good thing my older siblings have somewhat trained me (meaning, they picked on me a lot too); I was able to handle all the teasing. I just took it in stride. Now that I think about it, I'm so proud of my younger self. I never cried - not even once! - even though the teasing went on and on every single day. Perhaps it's largely because I never understood why they did it in the first place. I guess being at the top of the class with a good set of friends helped me too.

Of course, the verbal bullying I experienced took a toll on me. It gave me really low self-esteem and I experienced bouts of depression. There was a time when I couldn't even look at myself in the mirror. It's only when I got through my latter teen years that I regained it all back. It took me a long time to finally accept who I am, and I've never felt better.

And this is the reason why I'm annoyed at my mom most of the time. It took me forever to even like myself. Now she's trying to make me feel bad about myself again? I mean, come on mother, I love you, but you're bringing me down.

I certainly believe that bullying stems from deeper issues. I guess I can't blame them with that. I'm just lucky that I have a good support group. These special people in my life may have no idea about the details of my childhood (I never told anyone about it, not even my mom. Heh, this is probably the first time I actually put it in words! Thanks for that, LJ), but they love and encourage me just the same. A number of guy friends have also called me pretty a couple of times and I may not look like I liked it (I mean, gosh, I feel so embarrassed and self-conscious when people compliment me. Compliments regarding other stuff - like what I'm wearing - is fine, but when it comes to my looks, it's like.. aaawkwarrd), but I do believe them. Not to sound self-absorbed - I mean, I don't think I'm the prettiest - but I think I'm pretty. At least, pretty enough to not be dubbed as ugly and weird-looking.

I hope these bullies understand that being mean is never cool. Making people feel like trash is not even remotely productive nor does it lead to success. It's just stupid and wrong and such a waste of time and.. I don't know. I still can't fathom why some people would rather be mean than be nice.

Вопрос дня: Православные выставки

нет. небыло возможности.

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  • ccdesan

Writer's Block: Anti-bullying month

Who is the biggest bully in your life? One response chosen at random will win an Amazon Kindle. [contest details] (sponsored by )

Aside from the usual gamut of cretins I had to deal with in junior high and high school, the biggest bully I ever had to deal with was a boss who must have been Satan incarnate. I have never worked for a more consummately evil person.

He treated people like dirt, used his position to increase his wealth and status at the expense of customers and employees alike, and openly mocked and humiliated people who had belief systems which did not match his own. If you didn't kiss this man's ass, you immediately became a target, and your family was not spared his tender ministrations. The hell lasted five months, and I finally told him I wasn't going to put up with his bullshit any longer. He fired me, and it was the biggest favor anyone had ever done... I moved to a wonderful, fulfilling career that lasted for 22 years.

Oh, and the Boss from Hell? He was fired shortly thereafter for malfeasance. Small consolation, but what goes around comes around.

Writer's Block: Just stop, already!

What’s your biggest pet peeve?


The first thing that comes to mind is "repeating myself." I'm sure this stems from issues with patience that I've always struggled with, but nothing gets my blood boiling faster than having to repeat myself- even once! I've gotten a lot better at keeping myself in check, but it still bothers me every single time. I'm especially bothered when I know I've spoken clearly and audibly and the person I'm talking to just wasn't paying enough attention to hear me the first time around; if you're going to ask me a question at least be polite enough to listen when I respond.

That's my biggest pet peeve, but a close second is writing without punctuation, capitalization, or correct spelling. I can be guilty of it, from time to time, due to genuine error. It happens. But, truly, it "grinds my gears" to see people purposefully, out of laziness and not irony, write the longest run-on sentences lacking any sort of capitalization or proper spelling. It doesn't make you cool, you're not saving yourself that much time, and you just look uneducated- maybe you are, but you're probably not. This is especially bothersome in a time when every device has writing-assist tools built-in to a point that you have to purposefully misspell words and dodge punctuation.

Damn, this is a particularly bitchy "Writer's Block." I swear I'm not even angry. Here's a picture of one of my front flowerbeds to prove it:

Purple
Hijikata 02

Writer's Block: Anti-bullying month

Who is the biggest bully in your life? One response chosen at random will win an Amazon Kindle. [contest details] (sponsored by )



I guess it would be my previous manager. At my previous workplace, my manager seemed to picked me out of all my other co-workers for reasons unknown to me and made it hard for me to work. I would feel like quitting almost everyday and in one instance even cried when I got home.
  • mishlee

Writer's Block: Anti-bullying month

Who is the biggest bully in your life? One response chosen at random will win an Amazon Kindle. [contest details] (sponsored by )
My father. My whole entire life he has made me continually doubt my very existence in this world. He has always told me that I am strange, mentally ill, worthless, etc. Over the years I have tried to ignore his words but it is a hard thing to do when all you want is a normal relationship with the man who is supposed to be your father, who is meant to love you, guide you and only wish the very best for you. It has taken me 26 years but I finally cut off all communication with him, yet still to this day, though not as often as it used to be, his words still hurt me deeply.

Writer's Block: Just stop, already!

What’s your biggest pet peeve?

My biggest pet peeve stupid questions.Not stupid like something you think everyone knows ( example what colors do you mix again to make green?) but questions where the answer is so obvious. Like say theres snow on the ground and I`m wearing sleep shorts and my mom says are you going to wear that? Well no!!

Writer's Block: Just stop, already!

What’s your biggest pet peeve?
Oh my GOSH, I have a lot of those XD

1. When people don't stop talking to me: GOSH, when I just give you one word answers, or nod in your general direction, or just plain ignore you, GET. THE. HINT. And yes, I have a certain person in mind who does this XD

2. When people judge me: You aren't perfect, so stop acting like you are. Seriously.

3. When people act like they know me better than I do: I mean SOMETIMES, you might have the right idea when it comes to certain things, but I think I probably know what I'm going through better than you do. Just because you've been through the same thing doesn't mean that you know exactly what *I* should do, or what *I'm* thinking.

4. When people make cutting comments: If you don't have anything nice to say, just don't say it.

5. When people make cutting comments without knowing what's going on: Yeah, I have a certain person in mind who does this TOO, but I just have 2 words: F*ck. Off.

6. When people swear: "Swearing is to the inarticulate is an illusion of eloquence."

7. When people don't tell me stuff: Okay, this just might be something I'M doing wrong, but seriously, when people can't confide in their friends, that's just...kinda wrong in my view. I've never NOT confided in a friend before, there's absolutely NOTHING about me that SOMEONE or the other doesn't know, so I guess I just don't know what it feels like to not want to spill my guts.

8. When people boss me around: Who do you think you are?

9: When people are argumentative. Yes, there's someone I have in mind right now, but always wanting the last word and always wanting to be right is just *not* attractive. Or nice. Or anything, for that matter XD

10: When people act like they know everything, but actually don't: If you don't know, just say you don't. I hate people who act like they're always right.

11: When people are nice to some people, but mean to others: It's called being 2-faced. Very unattractive.

Yeah, I think I'll stop now. I'm in one of those *moods* where I just want to scream at someone right now. Or swear. But I don't swear, because that's crude. Whatever. skfhlsdkfh. I wanna sleep on someone's shoulder right now. Anyone's shoulder? Pillows don't seem to do a good job with making me fall asleep. I'd like to talk to someone. skdhflkdjf.

ANGRYGRYPH

Writer's Block: Just stop, already!

What’s your biggest pet peeve?


You're and your
There, their and they're
'irregardless'
'wan't ' and other instances of putting apostrophes where they don't belong
mixing up words that sound the same but are spelled differently (bear, bare)

EVERYONE WENT TO SCHOOL FOR A CERTAIN LENGTH OF TIME, YOU SHOULD KNOW HOW TO USE THESE (OR NOT) PROPERLY

Writer's Block: Just stop, already!

What’s your biggest pet peeve?
LOL.  It's when insecure people call family up on the phone and gossip about another member of the family, or when they write emails and tack everyone in the family on the address bar just to put another member of the family in the center of their verbal abuse and false accusations.  It's so cracked it's funny tho.

Who would do this?!  LMAO
jin!walking to the future

Writer's Block: Anti-bullying month

Who is the biggest bully in your life? One response chosen at random will win an Amazon Kindle. [contest details] (sponsored by )
For me it still hurt a bit when thinking back. Glad the pain doesn't last long like ever. But when your biggest bully was one of your friend it was hard to....understand.
I want to say that people should pay attention to the sign or listen to whatever your friend your family try to say to you. No matter how hard the bullying is. No matter how long they've to face it. Don't think it just short term thing. Don't think. Because it is still bullying. And it always hurt no matter what.

Writer's Block: Anti-bullying month

Who is the biggest bully in your life? One response chosen at random will win an Amazon Kindle. [contest details] (sponsored by )
The biggest bully in my life... my crush...

Well, he always teases me in elementary and even when we cross paths in highschool.. He used to say, I'm fat and chubby... I find him annoying an so irritating.. but I admit, I do have a 10&% crush on him, well, his cute...

The typical boy next door would say...
Tall, slightly fair skinned and he has broad shoulders...

The biggest bully comment I ever received was "Hey, I wonder, you have cute hips, don't you?"

It made me blush the whole day, but keeps me feel awkward too!

Haha...


Writer's Block: Operation Giggles

My response is a bit off, but it makes me laugh anyway.. haha

A lot of people just don’t realize they are annoying and people get irritated by their simple actions and replies,
But, I cannot blame them much since they don't really understand why their actions can just get too frustrating!
Especially what their actions meant and the words they say!
 
This is the very thing that bothers inside my head now..
 
Just a thought!
The world is a place where you need to understand the misunderstood!
Or understand why you are misunderstood!
 
Is that a bit confusing?
 
 
A teacher I respect once taught me that in order for us to know the things that are meant for us to do, in other words our purpose in life.
All we have to do is:
Find the real world!
Find it by yourself, and not merely depend on others.
Take risks!
It is indeed risky,
But it is worth the adventure!
 
--- and this is is how I felt getting irritated and simply annoyed by my cousins house maid!



What always makes you laugh?