October 8th, 2011

Вопрос дня: Стив Джобс

Ушел из жизни основатель компании Apple, Cтивен Пол Джобс, что вы можете сказать об этом человеке ?
Ушел из жизни основатель компании Apple, Cтивен Пол Джобс, что вы можете сказать об этом человеке?
Я не понимал, но чувствовал значимость и величие этой фигуры.

Вопрос дня: Современная литература

Читать само по себе полезно)). впечатлило и  шокировало - Джон Бойн
"Мальчик в полосатой пижаме", расширило кругозор - К.Мюллер "Вкус листьев коки", развеселило - романы Терри Пратчетта, умилило- любимая книга детства - "Волшебник Изумрудного города" (читала 4-летнему племяшу). мой выбор литературы полезной 
на этой неделе. 

Writer's Block: These are a few of my favorite things

What do you like most about LiveJournal?
I love the fact that I can finally keep some sort of journal and not feel badly for needing it.  I can post whenever I want about whatever I want and it wont matter because this is a journal.  I can write all my secret thoughts and desires, and explore the inner workings of my heart, mind and soul.  Sometimes I dont know what I would do without LiveJounral.  Live Journal is the journal I never had, I even have the option to make certain entries private.  Its wonderful.

Вопрос дня: Смерть

Смерть какого знаменитого человека ввергла вас в шок?
Меня ничья смерть (надеюсь) в шок не ввергнет. Да, она бывает ужасной, глупой, бессмысленной. Но главное чтобы уходя, человек успел выполнить свою главную задачу. Не скорбите по ушедшим, радуйтесь их успехам при жизни!
Schala

Writer's Block: These are a few of my favorite things

What do you like most about LiveJournal?
Live Journal does what it does pretty well: It provides a clean, straightforward interface to keep an online journal. It's familiar, a little bit kitschy, and not at all "slick" like many larger-audience websites strive to be. It permits a decent amount of HTML for the lay user. It feels cozy.

Other than the company's uncertain future, and the emerging truism that information may be forever online but websites aren't, the only thing I actively dislike about LJ is that I can't search my journal.

Блок дописувача

Смерть какого знаменитого человека ввергла вас в шок?
смерть многих... Айртон Сенна, Курт Кобейн, Лейн Стенли, Хит Леджер, Эмми Уайнхайс и Стив Джобс ..., некоторые смерти болят постфактум - Леннон, Моррисон.  Но смерть родных и любимых убивает что-то в тебе, а не ввергает в шок
  • amarett

Вопрос дня: Смерть

Смерть какого знаменитого человека ввергла вас в шок?
Не ожидала, что Алексей Завьялов так рано уйдет от нас. Какие у него трагические глаза, боже... ему бы еще играть и играть. Но все в руках Всевышнего. Вечная память...

Вопрос дня: Смерть

Смерть какого знаменитого человека ввергла вас в шок?
Сергей Бодров. Я тогда неделю ходила потерянная, всё время плакала и не понимала, за что? Так жалко, до сих пор отказываюсь верить...
  • amarett

Вопрос дня: Смерть

Смерть какого знаменитого человека ввергла вас в шок?
Не ожидала, что Алексей Завьялов так рано уйдет от нас. Какие у него трагические глаза, боже мой, в них такая глубина... ему бы еще играть и играть. Но все в руках Всевышнего. Вечная память...

Вопрос дня: Смерть

Смерть какого знаменитого человека ввергла вас в шок?
Редко отвечаю... Фредди  Меркюри, я помню мама собирала меня в школу... По телеку сказали что он умер.... Это не шок, потому как я не понимал кто это... Но со временем я понял - что гений... Я в шоке через лет 10 после его смерти.... Нету больше... и не будет...
masiki

Вопрос дня: Смерть

Стив Джобс-пример того,как один человек может изменить историю. Человек, который подарил всему миру новые возможности.
В его жизни было столько всего:подкидыш,эзотерик,лсд,индия,и..гений материального мира

Writer's Block: 9/11

Where were you?
I will never forget where I was on 9/11.  I was at ScanSource, Inc. working, doing my normal morning routine when someone came back from the cafe saying we are under attack.  I called my grandmother who confirmed...said she was watching on the Today Show.  I went to the cafe and couldn't believe what I was seeing on TV.  I thought it had to be a joke, some sort of prank. Then I realized it wasn't.  I saw the towers come down and could only imagine the horror those still inside were going through.  I prayed for those men and women and their families left behind.  I prayed for the police, fire fighters, EMS crew's, those poor search and rescue dogs who would find only the dead in the days that followed.  I got mad and angry at the terrorist who came and disrupted my bubble of safety. 

I cried while listening to Alan Jackson sing "Where Were You When The World Stopped Turning."  I cheered with Toby Keith's "The Angry American" and Jackyl's "I Hate You Bin Laden."

Most of all I realized that day and in the days, weeks and months that followed that the United States of America is a survivor.  We have the best Military in the world, who have fought and died and continue to fight and die for us, so that we may live in peace.  So that everyone grows up with that bubble of safety.   I thank God for them in every prayer.  I wish the world was like John Lennon's "Imagine," but unfortunately its not.  I don't know if it ever will be, but I know that as long as there are those doing evil in the world, America will fight for the safety and freedom of all those within her borders and  those that can't fight for themselves.   I learned that you need to thank God every day for those in your life and let those you love know, because you don't know what tomorrow will bring.
Rise Up

Writer's Block: Just stop, already!

What’s your biggest pet peeve?
The first one that popped into my mind is, People who make loud disgusting noises while they're eating. That is in no way my biggest one, nor apropos of anything happening in my life right now.
Wafts of cigarette smoke; now that's one that'll have me at my hissy worst, and one that's much more common.
Also when my cat lies on the bed to where I can't stretch my feet all the way down. She does it on purpose, yanno.

Вопрос дня: Смерть

Смерть какого знаменитого человека ввергла вас в шок?
Смерть Олега Ивановича Янковского.
В автобусе Москва-Серпухов меня догнала смска из столицы от подруги с этим известием. Первая мысль "Она что-то путает, не может быть!..". Но. Даже сейчас, вспоминая, тяжело стало. Хоть может показаться и странным такие переживания, ведь ты не знал этого человека в жизни. Но. Его фильмы сопровождали всю мою жизнь. Мелодии из фильмов, знаменитые фразы. Он играл так, что ему верили. Гений своего дела. 
Ещё в тот день долго думала о том, что уходит старая элита актёров. А что остаётся? Простите, но, к сожалению, мало сейчас настоящих актёров, профессионалов. Печально.

Writer's Block: Remembering Steve Jobs

Steve Jobs once said, "Your time is limited, so don't waste it living someone else's life." He inspired a generation to Think Different. How has the legacy of Apple's co-founder influenced your life?
I wasn't really moved by Jobs' passing at first, but when I watched a CNN tribute to him and the way he spoke about technology, I realized that I admired him. He seemed to be a very decent person that was all about delivering the cusp of technology to the common man. He found ways to show regular people what they can actually accomplish with a computer. While the hardware they sell has a tendency to be rigid and is fundamentally complex to master, it is very easy to use functionally on a purely consumer level. It is the most reliable software and hardware that I have ever come across, bar none. While it is pricy, it is worth the extra money because of the durability, reliability, functionality, and versatility.

So, now with him gone, I worry that Apple may waver in it's commitment. I hope not, but it does concern me.

Now about that quote:

My time is limited. I've realized that. I'm a human. I'm mortal. I could die relatively easily and relatively soon. So, I'm glad that I've begun to enact the changes in my life that I've needed for a long time. I'm excited to be apart of my own life. I'm trying not to "Nerf" myself so much anymore. I want to shine for a change, like the fucking sun. Why should I let myself be limited by someone's personal hang-ups? There's no damn good reason if the person isn't a fundamental structure member of my existence. Certain people fall into that category. I choose who gets in and who gets the doorman's polite dismissal; Keri ain't on the fucking guest list anymore. I'm finding that without her around, I can think more clearly. I want to be high less often (not that much less, but I've noticed is the underlying point). I"m happier. I smile and laugh now. I feel like a totally different person. OK, that might be exaggerated. Perhaps the more realistic statement of truth is that I now feel like I'm exactly who I wish to be. I'm a good, happy person. I'm smart and I'm not scared to show that off anymore. I'm a student and I love the pursuit of knowledge. I find it to be more fulfilling than anything I've managed to try so far.

I want to do multiple things in life. Here's a list of things I am going to do with my life.
  1. Teach.
  2. Design and create clothing.
  3. Cook up a storm.
  4. Create skilled, poignant pieces of journalism that get published.
  5. Write novels.
  6. Find a reliable, fun motorcycle.
  7. Grow plants.
  8. Build an arboretum.
  9. Raise a family (years away).
  10. Buy a historical home in Central Delray Beach and give it an amazing upgrade.
  11. Restore a classic Muscle Car.
  12. Work on correcting the myriad deficiencies in the US Education System with research and development of a modern, worthwhile, advanced learning style --- this will probably take my whole life to get moving in the right direction. It's a colossal undertaking. I will need lots of help.
  13. Do things worth remembering.
Now I'm going to relax with a movie and get up to find a new hair style with Joanna Randall. Good times.
       

Writer's Block: Freewill vs. fate

Is love destined or is it a choice?
The answer is both. 

We make a general agreement of what we'll experience and/or what souls we'll meet that we will have significant interactionses with before we incarnate. These are the souls that we either have the best relationships with or worst, and sometimes both in the same person, or people, lol.

These are the soulless that have the greatest impact on our lives and are usually those that have the most impact on how well we learn or experience whatever we agreed to. 

What we did in past incarnations was our choice, and the agreement we make or made before incarnation was our choice. Our incarnate experiences also depend on our thoughts and choices of viewpoint as well behavior, etc. 

So the answer again: Yes. LOL
  • stixdan

Вопрос дня: Стив Джобс

Ушел из жизни основатель компании Apple, Cтивен Пол Джобс, что вы можете сказать об этом человеке ?
Хороший был человек. Не скажу, что был согласен с ним во многом, в том числе и в правильности вдохновления через ЛСД), но безусловно его уважали все. Он был магнитом, иконой и пороком, отчаявшись еще в молодости в иных, он сам стал таким.
Каким был, таким и остался, его наследие по-крайней мере некоторое время все еще будет очень крупным. 

Writer's Block: “We built this city on rock and roll”

What are your favorite song lyrics, and why?
One of my favorites right now is "A Little Bit Stronger" by Sara Evans.  Some of the lyrics that rand true with me are:

"Riding in the car to work and I'm trying to ignore the hurt
So I turned on the radio, stupid song made me think of you
I listened to it for minute but I changed it
I'm getting a little bit stronger, just a little bit stronger"

When this song came out, I was getting to the point in an relationship where I knew it was time to walk away.  The verse above is exactly what I would do in the mornings on the way to work.

"And I'm done hoping that we could work it out
I'm done with how it feels, spinning my wheels
Letting you drag my heart around
And, oh, I'm done thinking that you could ever change

I know my heart will never be the same
But I'm telling myself I'll be okay
Even on my weakest days
I get a little bit stronger"

This part was also what I was going through.  I was tired of the drama, the lies, the hurt and pain.  I finally decided I was done and haven't looked back.  I know he will always leave a scar on my heart from the damage dealt, but I'm stronger for it.


Another one is Christina Perri's "Jar of Hearts."  The chorus is what caught my attention at first.  Again another song that reminded me of my ex and how I felt about the situation at that point.

"And who do you think you are?
Runnin' 'round leaving scars
Collecting your jar of hearts
And tearing love apart

You're gonna catch a cold
From the ice inside your soul
So don't come back for me
Who do you think you are?"

And one that reminds me of my first real kiss, not exactly a song that screams true love, but what I can I say, I was in 6th grade and hair bands were all the rage. 

"I don't wanna touch you too much baby
'Cos making love to you might drive me crazy
I know you think that love is the way you make it
So I don't wanna be there when you decide to break it"
 - Def Leppard  "Love Bites"







Вопрос дня: Смерть

Смерть какого знаменитого человека ввергла вас в шок?
Ну прям "шоку" від новини, що померла якась знаменита людина, в мене ще ніколи не було. Але можу сказати, що неприємно було почути, що померла Гурченко.

Writer's Block: These are a few of my favorite things

What do you like most about LiveJournal?
What I like most about LiveJournal is probably the fact that I can keep my thoughts in one location, and its safe. Its not like  a solid journal where someone can easily steal it. I also like the fact that I can come heree to pour out my thoughts when my mind cant take it anymore

Writer's Block: Hey Mr. DJ, keep playing this song…

What music lifts you up when you’re feeling down?
Got a few that I can add to this list:

Dirt Road Anthem - Jason Aldean
 - its just one of those songs I can listen to all day and not get bored.  Not sure why, but it sticks in my head and stays there.

Gangstas Paradise - Coolio
 - reminds me of high school, when all I worried about was a test or if we were going to win the game on Friday night.

Regulators - Warren G
 - to this day I can not hear this song without turning it up and singing along out loud.  Reminds me of a great beach trip taken in high school.

Welcome to the Jungle - Guns N Roses
 - perfect song to cruise the strip with the windows down and the volume turned up.  I'm smiling just thinking about these songs

Bohemian Rhapsody - Queen
 - Its Freddy Mercury and Queen, need I say more

and finally....Crazy Bitch - BuckCherry
 - This is one of those songs you can let your hair down and sing along to while doing just about anything


There are more, but I will stop with these six.


Вопрос дня: Смерть

Смерть какого знаменитого человека ввергла вас в шок?
Это была смерть Влада Листьева!Может время было такое,мне казалось ,знаменитых нельзя,вот так легко в доме застрелить,это меня точно шокировало!!!!
  • secyrg

Вопрос дня: Смерть

Конечно, можно не поверить, но - Брежнева (перед этим сравнимы только Машеров и Волков-Добровольский-Пацаев - молодёжь, наверное, чтолько через гугл сможет узнать, кто это). 
Причём шок оказался верным.
Правда, тогда мы не думали, что последствия отдалятся лет на пять. 
Именно с этой смерти начался бардак (и именно поэтому пришлось послужить в армии, а также пережить так называемую перестройку с далеко идущими последствиями).
shark

Writer's Block: These are a few of my favorite things

What do you like most about LiveJournal?
I am nosy. Really, really nosy. I love knowing what's going on. Want to wind me up? Let me know you've got a secret and don't tell me about it. Especially if everyone else knows.

LiveJournal is a place where I can legitimately creep on friends and strangers who become friends and I find out about the minutae of their lives. Occasionally a friend or two will ask if they should stop blogging about a certain subject, usually along with a poll, which I always click "no" to. It may be boring to some, but I find this stuff fascinating.

Obviously, in addition to this are the many communities where I can share my various hobbies and interests with like-minded people. Where else can I lament NEWS losing two members and buy some books all on the same website? While also finding out how to unblock my toilet and signing up to a secret santa? And looking at adorable pictures of Ryo doggies and kittens.

Вопрос дня: Смерть

Смерть какого знаменитого человека ввергла вас в шок?

На самом деле редко чья-то смерть повергает меня в шок, если только это не смерти родных или близких людей. К сожалению таковых хватало, что бы переживать из-за знаменитостей. Но вообще-то было очень жалко Юрия Степанова - очень молодой был мужчина, и талантливый актёр, Егора Летова, Курта Воннегута, ещё все замечательные артисты СССР, многие из которых, к несчастью, в последние годы уходят из жизни. Ещё было жалко Хусейна. И даже немного Ельцина, хотя его не то что бы очень. А вообще, каким бы человек при жизни ни был, всегда как-то когда он умирает - все обиды затаённые на него списываются, как-то жалко его по человечески становится. Так что смерть любого человека, наверное шок, если задуматься над этим хорошенько.
Memé2

Writer's Block: Funny people

Are you more of an entertainer who makes others laugh? Or do you prefer to be entertained?
Nací para entretener(te). Siento que si no hago que la gente se ría o de mí o conmigo, no tengo muchos otros propósitos en la vida. 
Tal vez ni siquiera lograr que se ría. A veces con lograr distraerla, sustraerla un poco de sus problemas diarios, de su monotonía de otras cosas que lastiman, con hacerla pensar en algo diferente -en alguna vida alterna, en alguna otra persona lejana, en ésas emociones que no se visitan a menudo-, con transportarlos un poco, con eso soy feliz.
¿Pero cuando logro que alguien más se ría? Cuando logro que alguien más se ría, me compro unos minutos más de felicidad a mí misma, me compro un poco de compasión, me regalo dulzura y ganas de vivir.
Si no puede entretener, no tengo nada. Si no puede hacerte ver algo diferente, no existo.

Memé2

Writer's Block: Fashion faux pas

What is the strangest thing in your closet?
I have two things that stand out in my 'closet':  A shiny yellow cowboy hat (which I have used for a play and for strolling around Ushuaia), and I just love) and a vinyl red jacked that kind of resembles a life vest (which I've used only once and I don't really like that much). 

Animals - Yin and Yang.

Writer's Block: Freewill vs. Fate

Is love destined or is it a choice?
I'm more on the fate side. I have friends and family members who say when they found their partner they felt a very intimate connection or 'the piece to the puzzle'. I've felt that way before as well, but unfortunetly it was one-sided. I do believe there is someone out there for everyone in the world. No matter what the age or where they live, they're out there.It just a matter of finding them and going down the right path.

Sephi's Eyes

Writer's Block: Freewill vs. fate

Is love destined or is it a choice?
You can force yourself to love something even if it takes Stockholm Syndrome, electroshock therapy, and hypnotism to do it. But if you fall in love against your better judgement, all those things combined won't make it go away until it's run its course. Which according to NatGeo is sort of like an apartment lease - up for renewal every three to five years. =D
Инал

Вопрос дня: Смерть

Смерть какого знаменитого человека ввергла вас в шок?
Ужасно! Помню моё удивление, разочарование, исступление, когда узнала о смерти великого короля поп-музыки Майкла Джексона. Человек - легенда! Любовь многих на всю жизнь! Узнала эту новость на французском, находясь в Марокко, не могла поверить в то, что говорили и что показывали.. Мне это казалось жестокой шуткой, чьим-то вымыслом, бредом.. Но , увы.. 
Светлая тебе память, о Майкл!

Вопрос дня: Смерть

  Итак, думаю, только ленивый не напишем об этом пост.
 
"5 октября 2011 Стив Джобс скончался в возрасте 56 лет после долгой борьбы с раком. Узнав о смерти Джобса, толпы американцев приходили к магазинам Apple в Нью-Йорке, Лос-Анджелесе и других городах. Люди приносили цветы, зажигали свечи, оставляли открытки с соболезнованиями..."
 
Как только проносится эта новость, Интернет сразу же начинает пестрить огромным количеством печальных и скорбящих сообщений, внезапно появившиеся поклонники ставят фото Джобса на места сфоих фотографий, все пишут о том, как велик и гениален был этот человек. Оказывается, он пользовался бешенной популярностью...
  Заметив эту сранную активность, я вполне естетсвенно удивилась и выразила свое сомнение и скептицизм относительно искренности соболезнований. "Этот извечный неоправданный и наигранный фанатизм" - подумала я. И первым же делом - Интернет, искать кто же был этот Стив Джобс. Конечно же, я знаю, что он является основателем всемирно известной корпорации Apple. Ну неужели в России столько людей пользуются этой не дешевой техникой, чтобы я на каждой странице рунета встречала словесные рыдания людей?Сильно сомневаюсь.
  Все понимаю, смерть достаточного знаменитого человека, много принесшего в развитие современной техники, много работающего во имя облегчения жизни человека. Но я считаю, что благодарить и поклоняться людям (если уж они действительно так на вас действуют, а не просто ради развлечения) надо, пока они еще живы. Почему же все, кто сейчас изо всех сил старается показать, как сильно на них повлияла смерть Стива Джобса, не говорили о его значимости раньше? Думаю, это принесло бы больше пользы. Да и ему бы было приятно. А сейчас? 
  Большим открытием для меня стало то, что Стив был членом совета директоров Disney. 
 
"В 1986 году Джобс купил  The Graphics Group (позже переименованный в Pixar)..."
 
Вот за это спасибо дядюшке Стиву Джобсу. Конечно, не он их рисовал, но уж лучше я поблагодарю его за отношение к любимым мультфильмам, чем просто для галочки.
  Светлая Вам память.
Destiel

Writer's Block: Freewill vs. fate

Me & my best friend met in Middle School 7 years ago & we've been practically attached at the hip ever since. I love her like a sister & I believe that it was destiny that brought us together..
However I think that some of it has to do with choice.
Destiny may have brought us together, but it was our choice on whether we became best friends or not. After all you can't choose who you love, but you can choose who you hang out with.


Animals - Yin and Yang.

Writer's Block: When the moon hits the sky...

Describe your perfect pizza.
Thin crust, cheese, broccoli, and sausage. Delicious. :9

I'm trying so hard to resist pizza -even thin/cracker crust. I've lost over 60 lbs since May from diet and exercise, and believe it or not, I've had one pizza a week in the process. I started out having two 10" each week then slowly cut down to one 8" a week. It was worth it though. Losing weight really makes you feel like a new person.
Brother Bird

Writer's Block: Freewill vs. fate

Is love destined or is it a choice?


I believe there are people we are fated to meet. As for romantic love specifically, I believe everyone has a choice about what they want in their lives and who they choose to share it with, if anybody. There have definitely been cases of matches made in Hell.

~Lotus~
Falling Stars

Writer's Block: Freewill vs. fate

Is love destined or is it a choice?
" You accept the love you think you deserve." -Unknown

I don't believe love is a choice. I don't believe its destined.

I think love is something that you can carry with you, and look upon in secret.. or  shout it out of the windows.
I think sometimes its easy to forget that love is truly just an emotion. Chemicals, like all the others.
Don't let me belittle the tide of love, however.. It can completely swallow you whole.


I am, as we speak (anytime we speak), in love with the same guy I met years ago. Loving him, as I do, is confusing and hurtful.. and damn near crippling sometimes. It puts me through misery that I wish I could just walk away from. Be done with it, and him, all at one time.
I've cried more over this person than anyone I've ever known, and wondered over that saying about waiting for the one who doesn't make you cry.. I've tried so many things that it makes me sound (and feel) pathetic.

I've had him, and let him go. I've ushered him right into another's arms. I have hated him, I have missed him, I even held him.

I have had moments where I knew nothing would ever be this right again..

And, I've left him in one way or another, various times.

We always end up coming together, somehow.. however.

Fated? No, I don't think anyone would ever be so cruel.
Made for each other?  No two are a perfect match.

When it comes to push, or shove, does it really matter?
I love him, and its sick.. but it never changes, no matter how hard I push him away....

He keep coming back.


Fuck!

Writer's Block: Freewill vs. fate

Is love destined or is it a choice?


I have all sorts of problems with the way this question is phrased (damn the multiple meanings of "love"! and fuck the word "destined") but I think I can address the essence of the question.

I don't think we can help who we are attracted to. It's some sum of biology and life experience (associations with certain physical features and personality traits based on others we know with those traits, etc) that give us almost innate preferences for certain people. Timing also plays a factor, like what we're looking for when we meet the person, the context we meet them in (some places are just sexier cues than others) and, if we're a heterosexual female, whether we're at a certain point in our monthly cycles that gives her a preference for a masculine vs. androgynous man. Attraction is instinctual; you feel it almost instantaneously. I don't think there is time for free will.

I don't think we can even help *falling in love,* either. Once all those cues are in place, the proper hormones kick in and our brain goes into crush mode. Some people are better at resisting (or logicking themselves out of) the pull of this, but for most of us feelings are pretty instinctual as well.

HOWEVER, no matter how we feel, we have free will regarding how to act on it. Just because you find a person beautiful doesn't mean the angels arranged your fated union in heaven. (Yes, I'm talking to you, James Blunt).
Finding a person beautiful doesn't even mean you have to even talk to them; you can choose to just walk away. Attraction is not obligation. A crush is not a mandate to pursue. And even if you have already fallen hook line and sinker in love, you can choose to surround yourself with supportive friends, nurse yourself with a few sad movies, and start to forget them.

And, surprisingly often, this is the best idea. Sometimes we can see from the get-go that a person we are attracted to is unaccessible or just straight-up bad news. (James, you said it yourself: "She was with another man"!). Sometimes we find out they aren't into us, or as into us as they ought to be. Sometimes we discover they self-destruct or abuse others, or other dealbreakers. Sometimes we just discover they're going somewhere or doing something that doesn't fit in our life plan. I don't think our feelings for them "fate" us to suffer in unpleasant circumstances. Our free will is our gift to walk away.

Walk away, and perhaps find someone new. There are plenty of other options for love out there. I think the concept of soulmates, one single true love in the entire universe which you must find or die lonely and incomplete (even if they live in Mongolia and you'll never meet? even if they live in a parallel universe? even if they're already dead??), is one of the most illogical (and depressingly pessimistic) things I've ever heard of. Why on earth would only one person possibly be fated to be with you? We may have a very specific set of preferences, but there are more than 6 billion people on the planet, for crying out loud. What's more, we are biologically wired to mate (and probably to mate with more than one person); our species would be gone if we had to hike over seven continents to find our One True Partner. However so much you love the one you're with, there's another (probably hundreds of anothers) you could love just as well. You might love them *differently,* as they're a different person; you would connect in different ways and your relationship might have a different energy or dynamic; but it would still be love, just as valid as any other love.

Take it away, Tim Minchin:



Finding someone to develop loving feelings for involves a certain element of chance, certainly. But choosing to enter and maintain a relationship-- true, lasting love-- is all up to you.
La Belle Dame Sans Merci

Freewill vs. fate

Is love destined or is it a choice?
I don't believe in destiny in the traditional sense, but I don't believe falling in love is completely a choice, either. If it had been a choice for me, I would have changed my mind several times over in the past., believe me. I had almost forgotten what it felt like, so much so that the feeling is now frightening to me at times. And what makes us silly ones fall in love with someone we KNOW is capable of hurting us, or the ones that don't love us back? Or as much? Do you think I would make that choice, given the chance? I've tried deciding to forget someone, completely eliminating them from my life, and it doesn't work.

Some things in life are chosen, and others are thrust upon us when we least expect, or even really want them to occur. I find myself in a position that I did not choose, but I should have FORESEEN, and now that I know just what kind of problem it is that I have on my hands, every atom in my body is screaming to run away. To be satisfied with the normal, calm, stable relationships and situations I have. But I cannot seem to stop thinking about it in my spare time, of which I have an ample supply. But, there is also something inside of me very quietly digging it's feet into the ground and firmly saying, "No. I'm going to ride this one out, even though it scares the shit out of me because it makes me feel things I haven't felt since I was a kid." I suppose the fear must come from knowing that nothing gold stays, and all things must come to an end.

Like any person who discovers something shiny and special and new, yet familiar in ways one cannot describe, I am possessive of it. I worry, often, that it will be taken from me before I have had time to truly learn from it and appreciate it. Then again, the universe has always put me in the place that I need to be - we either overcome our obstacles and misfortunes, or we learn from it. I do not yet know how I would overcome what has been troubling me, but at least I know there's something to learn. .....That doesn't make anticipation of being dreadfully fucking hurt less likely to happen (that I know of), but it makes it easier to deal with. I have to accept that I have no control over others....and I really need to speak my mind more.

Speaking of which, that brings me to my next point, which is that I accomplished something tonight with which I have a LOT of trouble, and that is Saying NO. Not a coy "maybe," no diversion from the subject, just flat out "NO." Well, maybe not so forcefully as I imagined it in my mind. :) But, I did it. Knowing me, that is amazing. But, not many people know that about me.....at least, the less insightful ones or more self-centered ones don't. But who cares what they think? :p

If I could just find a way to stop thinking over and over and over it again and again! It's maddening.....life would be easier if we were "allowed" (fuck you, society) to express how we feel, frankly and honestly, and with as much compassion as possible. The world would be better for it.

On another note, things have been a little off lately, and being that I haven't felt these retarded, pubescent emotions in quite a long time, I was at first inclined to think that someone with some skill is casting on me. But, I have thus far been unable to talk to anyone about it because I really don't feel like being told that I am paranoid, or delusional, or have it suggested anyway. I've been acting out of character, and my body and mind have been on high alert alternating with rapid cycling depression for like the past WEEK. No one to really talk to about that, either. I'm currently laboring under the belief that everyone I talk to isn't really listening to me, or doesn't care about what I'm saying. I don't open my mouth very fucking much, so if I do, I think people should do me the courtesy of giving a shit. Never know, someday my empathy may run out....that day rather scares me. lol.

Wow, 4 am crept up fast. I think it's time for me to go to bed. sigh....
Memé2

Writer's Block: “We built this city on rock and roll”

What are your favorite song lyrics, and why?
No puedo decidirme, la verdad.
Hay un par de letras que significan mucho para mí, así que voy a citarlas a todas (en ningún orden particular):

--Panic! At The Disco, 'Always': 
"It was always you
Falling for me
Now there's always time
Calling for me
I'm the light blinking at the end of the road
Blink back to let me know"

No sé el porqué de que ésa sección me impacte tanto. Sospecho que tiene algo que ver con ese pedir que te den una señal, y no saber qué viene después. El tener un dolor increíble causado por (quizá) un error propio, pero tener esperanza, aún a pesar del paso del tiempo.
(Toda la canción me impacta.)

--New Order, 'Bizarre Love Triangle':
"There's no sense in telling me,
the wisdom of a fool won't set you free."

Hay algo tan resignado en ésa parte de la canción, algo con lo cual yo me puedo conectar. Una sensación de vacío, como cuando uno piensa '¿Por qué me buscás a mí? No sé qué te puedo dar. No tengo nada para darte.'
Canción que apuñala, y cura. 

--Panic! At The Disco, 'Hurricane':
"I led a revolution, in my bedroom
and i set all the zippers free.
We said 'no more war, no more clothes,
give me peace'."

Sexo. Tengo una relación medio extraña con él. Lo disfruto como la mayor parte de la gente, pero no siempre disfruto oír hablar de él en los medios artísticos. Son más las veces que me siento un poco repugnada, que las veces que lo encuentro erótico.
Ésta canción logra cautivarme desde el lado sexual, porque vincula el acto sexual con la abolición del odio.
Cuando hacés el amor, incluso cuando cogés, algo hay. Algo más profundo, algo de muerte y de vida y de combatir pero con un orgasmo en lugar de un tanque.  
Hagamos el amor y no la guerra. 

--Calle 13, 'Latinoamerica':
"Tú no puedes comprar al viento,
tú no puedes comprar al sol,
tú no puedes comprar la lluvia,
tú no puedes comprar el calor.
Tú no puedes comprar las nubes,
tú no puedes comprar los colores,
tú no puedes comprar mi alegría,
tú no puedes comprar mis dolores."

Ésta canción me hace querer llorar cada vez que la escucho. Todo lo que dice, de alguna forma, me hace sentirme cubierta como por una manta.
Cuando salgo de mi casa y miro el cielo, cuando camino y veo a la gente (mi gente), cuando me río, cuando lloro, cuando doy gracias de estar acá, me acuerdo de ésta canción un poco.
Es tan bella ésta tierra. Tan bella, tan infinita, y con tanto sabor a calidez.
(Básicamente todas las letras de Calle 13 me enamoran hasta la destrucción/distracción.)


--Judy Garland & Barbra Streisand, 'Happy Days Are Here Again/C'mon Get Happy':
"Forget your troubles (happy days),
c'mon get happy (are here again),
you better chase all your blues away (the skies above are clear again),
shout hallelujah (so let's sing a song),
c'mon get happy (of cheer again),
get ready for the judgement day (happy days are here again).

Felicidad. Cuando la escucho. Cuando la integro a mí. Felicidad y dos cucharadas de nostalgia por algo que jamás viví, y por alguien que jamás conocí.
Pero, ¿más que nada? Felicidad brotando por todos mis orificios, como una saliva espesa de colores.

--Árbol, 'Ya lo Sabemos':
"A veces hay que mentir, 
a veces hay que decir la verdad;
otras veces hay que callar, 
y seguir.
Como muelas que se rompen,
como dientes que se asfixian.
Y seguir, y seguir, y seguir.
A veces hay que matar,
a veces hay que saber perdonar;
otras veces hay que olvidar,
y seguir.
Como el miedo en la noche,
como el miedo en la mañana.
Y seguir, y seguir, y seguir.
Ya lo sabemos, todos tenemos un poco de miedo."

Muchas verdades, muchas verdades en una pequeña canción que casi nadie se para a escuchar detenidamente. 
Cuando tengo miedo pienso en ésta canción. Pero cuando le tengo miedo a la vida, a las decisiones, a las personas (a la falta de ellas, más que nada).
Me resucita la fe y la lágrima me da un poco de energía.

--Panic! At the Disco, 'I have Friends in Holy Spaces':
"Take a chance, take your shoes off, dance in the rain.
I was splashing around, and the news spread all over town,
I'm not complaining that it's raining,
I'm just saying that I'd like it a lot more than you think,
if the sun would come out and sing with me."

En una etapa de mi vida, escribía 'take a chance, take your shoes off, dance in the rain' en todos lados. Creo que le atribuyo más importancia a ésta canción de la cual debería, tal vez. Pero hay una chispa tan atrapante en decirle a la gente que tome riesgos y oportunidades y que se saque los zapatos y que baile en la lluvia.
Y hay algo tan conmovedor en decir que uno no se queja de las situaciones adversas de la vida (tomás la lluvia como viene, disfrutándola incluso en la medida que te sea posible), pero que el cambio sería bienvenido.
O, en otra interpretación, decirle a ésa otra persona 'me encantaría que te quedaras conmigo a cantar'.
(Y el cantar como una última analogía.)

--María Elena Walsh, 'Como la Cigarra':
"Cantando al sol, como la cigarra
después de un año bajo la tierra
igual que el sobreviviente
que vuelve de la guerra."

'Tantas veces me mataron, tantas veces me morí'. Esta canción es perfecta.
O lo más cerca que uno puede llegar a la perfección. Tiene un noséqué increíble, una melancolía, y un rayo de luz, y una incipiente necesidad de insertarse dentro tuyo y hacerte florecer.
Con la cara al sol, escucho esto y me siento calentita, como contra el pecho de mi mamá.

--Joaquín Sabina, 'A la Orilla de la Chimenea':
"(...) O tal vez ésa sombra
que se tumba a tu lado en la alfombra,
a la orilla de la chimenea
a esperar que suba la marea."

Una de las mejores canciones románticas de todos los tiempo, ¡y en español! He escuchado pocas cosas más entregadas, más agónicas en su ejecución verbal. 
Ésta visión del amor es tan real, y tan triste. 'Me bastaría con ser tu enemigo'. Porque es así, y todos quienes alguna vez se hayan apretado la panza creyendo que iban a vomitar cuando en realidad lo que querían era llorar y reírse a la vez y abrazar hasta convertirse en un objeto inanimado parado para siempre en ésa acción, sabemos que es así. Que nos conformamos con lo que sea, que seríamos lo que sea; que daríamos todo, y seríamos nada.
Que, realmente, nos sentaríamos bien quietitos a esperar que suba la marea.
(Si eso quisieran nuestros dueños.)

--Fleetwood Mac, 'Landslide':
"Well' I've been afraid of changing
Cause I've built my life around you.
But times makes you bolder,
children get older,
and I'm getting older too." 

Construí mi vida en torno a vos. Es verdad.
Y ahora no te tengo y estoy tan perdida. Pero vos creciste, y yo también.

--Leonard Cohen, 'Hallelujah':
Maybe there’s a God above
But all I’ve ever learned from love
Was how to shoot at someone who outdrew you
It’s not a cry you can hear at night
It’s not somebody who has seen the light
It’s a cold and it’s a broken Hallelujah

Lo importante de ésta canción no es si habla sobre Dios o no. Es que con su letra puede evocar todo. Absolutamente todo.
Incluso furia y desasosiego. 
Pero, ¿sobre lo de Dios? Me hace creer un poco, sí. Algo más allá debe haber, para que exista música como esta. Algo grande. Llamale Dios, si querés, o ponele un nombre al azar.


 ... Algunas otras hay. Pero por ahora pienso en éstas. Son hermosas. Y las siento mucho.

Writer's Block: Freewill vs. Fate

Is love destined or is it a choice?
While destiny(or luck) does bring people together to meet, I believe people ultimately choose who they are going to date or marry. On the other hand, falling in love itself is not exactly a choice. You can't really control what types of people you are attracted to.
Skeleton

Writer's Block: These are a few of my favorite things

First and foremost; it was the first (and possibly only) platform where I channeled all that excess creativity I had. 

livejournal, bb, you were my first love.

I just love how customizable everything is, and how much freedom this gives you even if you don't have a paid account. Because of this, it's on some level idiot-proof (customization does mean that there is a learning curve to grasping how livejournal works, and then more so to find the stuff you want).
So I do enjoy the people here, even if I don't interact as much as I used to.

Not to mention - what I knew of html and computing I got at least somewhat from livejournal. So yes, I'm extremely attached to it.

It's such a shame to see El Jay in decline.
[ffx] Yuna; Lost

Writer's Block: Freewill vs. fate

Is love destined or is it a choice?

Neither. Love is like a tidal wave. It's not fate, it's not destiny, it's a force of nature. You can fight against it, kick and struggle and scream, or you can ride it out. But as long as you keep your head up, you'll survive it. And most of the time, you'll be left right where you started, a little frayed around the edges but really no worse for wear. But sometimes, it'll sweep you off your feet.

Do tell me if I'm wrong. :P I can admit to being sheltered and naive.

Though, to be fair, I'm of the distinct opinion that, while fate is a delusional fallacy, predestination is, in a sense, a reality. But the stigma attached with the word destiny implies that one can simply kick up their feet, lay back, and let the world take them where they're meant to go. That's not it. I tend to believe more in everything having a set and distinct causality to it. While our decisions are important and they carry a distinct weight, everything has been set in motion. The choice is yours to make. But we are a sum of our parts, a culmination of everything we have, everything we are, and everything we've experienced up tot hat point in time. So if we could split the universe into a thousand identical parallels, you would behave exactly the same in every universe because each version of you has the same thoughts, the same skills, the same condition. Random doesn't exist in practice. There's always a cause, always a reason that one option is chosen above the others. It's just that, so often, these processes are beyond our observation

So, I suppose in a sense, love is destined. But then, so are our choices. Free will is not an escape from destiny. It's just another set of gears in motion.

On a related note: Today I made a new tag.

Also, my whole head hurts, so I'll talk about my favorite aliens tomorrow.
Penises. Very much so.

"Are you kidding?! That's like liquid fear!"

Is love destined or is it a choice?
First? "Freewill" is not a word. A Capitalized Phrase for Importance in fantasy or paranormal toilet paper romances, perhaps, but not a word. People have already bullshat "alright" out of "all right," and keep using "everyday" as a noun instead of a goddamn adjective, and "literal" is not just a smart word for emphasis you fucking cretins

*cough*

I don't see why no one's allowed to think it might be - or have been - destined for them, Ever, but I'm gonna go with the romance involved in living with someone for long enough to understand just how big a pain in the ass it is to maintain a healthy relationship and keep doing it anyway because it's really that important to you--not "I want to fuck you, and we like some of the same songs! IT WAS MEANT TO BEEEE"

In other news, Disgaea is stonewalling again. I am stuck on a robotic zombie penguin with 4.3 million HP--even Valvatorez can barely scratch him, and he's...well, he was level 2700. Now he matches the Prinny at level 3000. Am motivated to keep going by constant discoveries of cool shit to do (no one told me Magichanging a monster into a weapon means the monster gets 100% of the EXP along with the person wielding it!), though I plan to stop loooooooooong before I'm done with a tenth of all the extra shit available. There's just too much of it, and once the story's done with (turns out you can square off with God :D), I probably won't find endless grinding sufficiently satisfactory as to keep me there for another 50 hours.

*makes Mike open the windows*

*watches Mayu freak out--we never ever open these, but it's wonderful out right now and the dining room's stuffy, dammit*

Writer's Block: Just stop, already!

What’s your biggest pet peeve?
My biggest pet peeve is Decibel Terrorism, the mobile Blaupunkt sound system that you hear from a mile away . . . getting closer, closer. Either that, or people snapping  gum. Did I mention I'm sensitive to noise? I once wrote a story in which a gum snapper was almost attacked. But that wasn't the plot. Ha!

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Writer's Block: Freewill vs. fate

Is love destined or is it a choice?
It's destined. There is no choice in who you love, or no one would ever feel heart broke. Or fall for the wrong person, at the wrong time. It's never a choice. So, yea, love is destined. It's not a conscious choice. You just get to choose how you deal with that love. 

Writer's Block: Freewill vs. fate

Is love destined or is it a choice?
Love is a choice to accept destiny.   Love and destiny are both intertwined so that without one, the other is as flat as dull soda.  We make a choice to fall in love, so therefore we choose to accept our destiny to fall in love.  We use the phrase, it is my destiny to love you.  That means that we accept the plan for us to fall in love with that specific person, whether we're meant to love them or not.  Our hearts take us to places we dont really want to go, and places we need to go.  Whether or not we listen to heart and mind, is another matter entirely, and one that saddens me because not many of us do.  We've gotten so caught up in daily stuff that we cant accept what our hearts are trying to tell us.  So therefore I say unto, love me as you would want to be loved, for it is your destiny to do so.

Вопрос дня: Помощь

Когда вы видите человека в беде, проходите мимо или помогаете?
помогаю в обязательном порядке. мне кажется по другому и не может быть. если человек здоров и душой и телом то помощь ближнему само собой разумеющееся.

Writer's Block: Anti-bullying month

Who is the biggest bully in your life? One response chosen at random will win an Amazon Kindle. [contest details] (sponsored by )
The most recent and toxic bully was my district manager. He needed anger management therapy. Plus the company did not train their district managers on professionalism in the area of people management. Racism and sexism were operating there, but in the closet ['wink wink ... nudge nudge, bro']. It starts at the top. If CEOs condone and/or hide certain behaviors, it filters down . . . 

I suppose we're ALL tired of hearing about toxic corporations! And dealing with them.